Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WOW!!! I declined at Thanksgiving invitation invitation this year where the hosts asked everyone to contribute $25. I thought that was terribly tacky. I'm not American and I really don't care about Thanksgiving (because of what it represents historically) I don't mind bringing a dish or alcohol but to ask for a dollar amount contribution is beyond tacky.

For that price, you might as well go out to eat.

Where can you eat Thanksgiving dinner for $25? I was at a place the other day where it started at $170 per person. Damned if I can remember it, though.

contribute $25? super tacky!

I have probably mentioned this before, but I know someone who asked a parent if she should stop and pick up anything for her daughter's party, lshe mentioned for example ice...and was told, sure, thanks, bring a bday cake.

Anonymous wrote:WOW!!! I declined at Thanksgiving invitation invitation this year where the hosts asked everyone to contribute $25. I thought that was terribly tacky. I'm not American and I really don't care about Thanksgiving (because of what it represents historically) I don't mind bringing a dish or alcohol but to ask for a dollar amount contribution is beyond tacky.

For that price, you might as well go out to eat.

WOW!!! I declined at Thanksgiving invitation invitation this year where the hosts asked everyone to contribute $25. I thought that was terribly tacky. I'm not American and I really don't care about Thanksgiving (because of what it represents historically) I don't mind bringing a dish or alcohol but to ask for a dollar amount contribution is beyond tacky.

I'm confused. When you asked what you could bring, isn't that accepting the invitation? Did you withdraw your acceptance after the crazy turkey request?

No sarcasm. They hosted another birthday party and asked everyone to bring something, when we arrived with cheese and crackers we quickly realized that they hadn't prepared anything for the party. Not even a birthday cake or anything. They made a friend do that. I've never been invited to a person's house where they didn't do most of the work and everyone else filled in around the edges. They didn't have drinks for kids or even drinks for adults - unless you wanted to fill a glass with water from the tap. Needless to say we no longer accept dinner and or party invites from them. I could understand if they didn't have money (they have plenty), or they didn't have time to cook but still if I invite people over there will be food and drink even if it means I cater. But to ask friends to supple everything just seems off to me.

To be honest, I once hosted Rosh Hashanah and did everything except the main dish, the brisket. But yeah, it was not my classiest moment and if I were hosting again I'd just order one pre-cooked (I can't cook for shit).

I had this happen to me and she was not joking, just a spoiled woman. I did not bring the turkey.

sarcasm maybe?

I would have declined, too. That is just odd.

Wow.

We received an invitation to a friends house for Thanksgiving. We asked what we could bring and they commented that no one has volunteered to bring a cooked Turkey? We declined the invitation but it seemed strange that the host wouldn't prepare the turkey (they are americans so its not a culture thing) and let the guest bring the rest. I can't even being to imagine trying to bring a warm turkey to someones house.