I also fall into both of those categories. I think it's funny you think #1 can be solved so easily. What would your Heiness recommend I do?

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Anonymous wrote:I fall into both categories too. Instead of getting tired of it, why not just recognize that these are clearly issues in our geographical region? Its expensive to live here and the area attracts highly educated workers, so, both parents work in many households and have little time, hence, power struggles regarding chores, and, because it is so expensive, those parents end up strapped for time and money, despite their relative wealth. It is called the rat race, and those of us who are caught up in it are strugglign with how to change it.

There are many, many ways to change both situations. You either do not want to make the tough decisions or just like to whine.

By this logic, why should those with no money get to whine? There are many, many ways to make the tough decisions and sacrifices to make more. Go back to school, work more hours, etc. Oh, wait, you have the cornerstone on whining.

14:46, if you'd just admit that even though it's more than you make, no one with a HHI of $300K is swathed in mink, I'd be happy.

I don't want to hear about how "sad" you feel that it has "come to this" -- nannies and the "help" "raising" "our" children. They are not your children. Do not worry about it. Worry about your own children. And, yes, how you will get back into the job market in ten years.

Anonymous wrote:I fall into both categories too. Instead of getting tired of it, why not just recognize that these are clearly issues in our geographical region? Its expensive to live here and the area attracts highly educated workers, so, both parents work in many households and have little time, hence, power struggles regarding chores, and, because it is so expensive, those parents end up strapped for time and money, despite their relative wealth. It is called the rat race, and those of us who are caught up in it are strugglign with how to change it.

There are many, many ways to change both situations. You either do not want to make the tough decisions or just like to whine.

I don't want to hear about how "sad" you feel that it has "come to this" -- nannies and the "help" "raising" "our" children. They are not your children. Do not worry about it. Worry about your own children. And, yes, how you will get back into the job market in ten years.

The SAHM telling the WOHMs that strangers are raising our kids and we don't love our kids as much as her.
I secretly think this poster is just one person. And very insecure.

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Anonymous wrote:My list starts with:

1. DW who is WOH and doing 90% of the housework and lazy dh won't get off his ass to help. Seriously, these posts are just exhausting to read. I don't know how someone lives like this, or tolerates their spouse treating them like that.

2. "My HHI is 300k but between our 401k, DC's 529, helping my parents, and paying a mortgage on our 800k house which is not a big fancy house by any means, we certainly do not feel like we are in the top 10% of anything!" Seriously, STFU. It strikes me as phenomenally out-of-touch and tone-deaf that someone feels that they are not well-to-do because they are trying to save so much money that they cannot finance an extravagant lifestyle. There are people in this area "barely making it" on half of that, or one quarter of that.

Gosh I fall into both. They aren't archetypes, they are real.

They may be real, but #1 is boring because, I agree -- why live your life like this. And #2 is, I agree -- STFU. You are not poor. You are not even middle class. Who cares if you suffering in mink?

Let me offer my own. I don't want to hear how you can't get back into the job market after 10 years SAH. Don't complain about the crappy commute because you had to have a big house so you live in Loudoun County.

I fall into both categories too. Instead of getting tired of it, why not just recognize that these are clearly issues in our geographical region? Its expensive to live here and the area attracts highly educated workers, so, both parents work in many households and have little time, hence, power struggles regarding chores, and, because it is so expensive, those parents end up strapped for time and money, despite their relative wealth. It is called the rat race, and those of us who are caught up in it are strugglign with how to change it.

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Anonymous wrote:My list starts with:

1. DW who is WOH and doing 90% of the housework and lazy dh won't get off his ass to help. Seriously, these posts are just exhausting to read. I don't know how someone lives like this, or tolerates their spouse treating them like that.

2. "My HHI is 300k but between our 401k, DC's 529, helping my parents, and paying a mortgage on our 800k house which is not a big fancy house by any means, we certainly do not feel like we are in the top 10% of anything!" Seriously, STFU. It strikes me as phenomenally out-of-touch and tone-deaf that someone feels that they are not well-to-do because they are trying to save so much money that they cannot finance an extravagant lifestyle. There are people in this area "barely making it" on half of that, or one quarter of that.

Gosh I fall into both. They aren't archetypes, they are real.

They may be real, but #1 is boring because, I agree -- why live your life like this. And #2 is, I agree -- STFU. You are not poor. You are not even middle class. Who cares if you suffering in mink?

No! These people pop up frequently, oftentimes in random threads. Hence archetypes.

Anonymous wrote:My list starts with:

1. DW who is WOH and doing 90% of the housework and lazy dh won't get off his ass to help. Seriously, these posts are just exhausting to read. I don't know how someone lives like this, or tolerates their spouse treating them like that.

2. "My HHI is 300k but between our 401k, DC's 529, helping my parents, and paying a mortgage on our 800k house which is not a big fancy house by any means, we certainly do not feel like we are in the top 10% of anything!" Seriously, STFU. It strikes me as phenomenally out-of-touch and tone-deaf that someone feels that they are not well-to-do because they are trying to save so much money that they cannot finance an extravagant lifestyle. There are people in this area "barely making it" on half of that, or one quarter of that.

Gosh I fall into both. They aren't archetypes, they are real.

But don't these posts have self-explanatory titles? Ones you know you shouldn't read because they drive you crazy?

calm down.

My list starts with:

1. DW who is WOH and doing 90% of the housework and lazy dh won't get off his ass to help. Seriously, these posts are just exhausting to read. I don't know how someone lives like this, or tolerates their spouse treating them like that.

2. "My HHI is 300k but between our 401k, DC's 529, helping my parents, and paying a mortgage on our 800k house which is not a big fancy house by any means, we certainly do not feel like we are in the top 10% of anything!" Seriously, STFU. It strikes me as phenomenally out-of-touch and tone-deaf that someone feels that they are not well-to-do because they are trying to save so much money that they cannot finance an extravagant lifestyle. There are people in this area "barely making it" on half of that, or one quarter of that.