OP posted this exact scenario with terrible typos and all a few months ago.

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh. "we love you because we have to love you, but we don't have to like you, and we don't." If I had a dollar for every time my parents told me that when I was growing up . . . Yes, op, it's very possible for parents to dislike their children.

it sounds like you dislike your daughter's actions, not her, though. stop letting her take advantage of you. that was one of the problems in my relationship with my parents before I ended contact. They took advantage of me, and disliked me all the more because I let them.

Your parents said this to your face? Wow.

I'm sorry.

Thanks, but their words were the least of my worries growing up. and in the end, what doesn't destroy me makes me stronger - so true!

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. "we love you because we have to love you, but we don't have to like you, and we don't." If I had a dollar for every time my parents told me that when I was growing up . . . Yes, op, it's very possible for parents to dislike their children.

it sounds like you dislike your daughter's actions, not her, though. stop letting her take advantage of you. that was one of the problems in my relationship with my parents before I ended contact. They took advantage of me, and disliked me all the more because I let them.

Your parents said this to your face? Wow.

I'm sorry.

Try to repossess the car if the loan is in your name. I'm not sure how you'd go about it, but maybe check the laws in your state. You'd probably have to have something in writing stating the loan is in your name but she's paying you back...in other words prove it was a loan. Good luck!

My mother does not like my sister. I know because she told me.

To those who posted that your parents don't like you. Assuming that you are seeing things clearly, sometimes parents can be spoiled & mean, just as kids can. I knew someone who had nothing but criticism & torment from her parents. She should have moved a few states way & never dealt with them again. If you have done all you knew to do, realize there is nothing wrong with you. Your parents failed the test, not you. Remember in the right ways & do better with your kids. That can be some satisfaction and healing for you. My father was a much better father than his father, from all I've been told.

Ugh. "we love you because we have to love you, but we don't have to like you, and we don't." If I had a dollar for every time my parents told me that when I was growing up . . . Yes, op, it's very possible for parents to dislike their children.

it sounds like you dislike your daughter's actions, not her, though. stop letting her take advantage of you. that was one of the problems in my relationship with my parents before I ended contact. They took advantage of me, and disliked me all the more because I let them.

Anonymous wrote:Neither of my parents like me and never really have since I was about middle school age. They do like my younger sibling.

How does this happen?

If the car loan is in your name, do not stop paying. It your car, so make her pay for.

Neither of my parents like me and never really have since I was about middle school age. They do like my younger sibling.

Yep. My mom and I did not like each other. We knew this by the time I was 10. I mean she liked me in so much as she had to because I was her child and me the same because she was my mother but no, we would never going to become friends as adults and if she had lived (died when I was 22) I am certain we would likely not have made any more effort to speak to each other or get together. There was no big blow up, there was no big disagreement, we simply just didn't like each other. It happens.

Cut her off, OP. Stop paying her car loan. You have to be strong. She's taking advantage of you, and you can't let her. It hurts like Hell, OP, but you must do it. I know you love her, but you are enabling her dysfunctional behavior. She has to grow up and take responsibility for herself, and learn to respect you. Until she does that, you have to cut her off and tell her why you are doing it. Tough love hurts, but that sounds like your only choice in this scenario. Good Luck.

It is very possible. I dislike 1 of mine a good deal of the time. She is a teen in full rebellion and worse. I sympathize with you.

At 35, you do not owe your daughter any further help, especially when the thanks you get is being cursed and yelled at. Cut the rope and let her drift. By this age, she should be well past blaming Mom for all her problems & should be thanking you for your help. Let her lose her car and live on the street if need be. She can find cardboard at a Home Depot and make herself a little shelter. Some plastic can usually be found to wrap and waterproof it a little. She can beg on the streets for food money. After all that, maybe doing things your way won't seem so bad.

I'm sure you made some mistakes. I've sure made my share and get them in my face every day. But she can't say you have not tried to help her. Please do not allow her to bankrupt you and totally wreck your life as well as her's.

well i am a mom. and my one child is 35 years and i dont like her. well beford you start judding me this did not happend over night.. it is the disrespecfullness she talk to me like stash, and i cant understand it, she and i was talking on the phone, about something she did. and oh boy i could not belived the words that was coming from her mouth. i take a loan out in my name to get a car to help her out and i wish i did not do it. i am paying for the car 1year now also insurance and plus the ticket. this girl is putting my cred on the line, now i fine out she move away with the car and i dont know ware she is. can someone give me some input and what to do please mom how would you field about what she did, i dont have money like that, it is so painfull i cant bay my bill becouse of this, help me please