Anonymous wrote:Just be thankful that someone is willing to visit you.

One of life's great mysteries....

Just be thankful that someone is willing to visit you.

1515 you does not equal you. It equals general you. Sorry.

Anonymous wrote:1459 I do tell people, but not exactly how I said it here. I try to be nice but people don't get it. They expect you to cater to them. I find it to be rude. And its offensive that there is this notion that I need to change. No I don't. I am fine. If you don't get it maybe you need to change into a person with better manners. Everyone doesn't want you in their face all the time. There is room for all types of people.

What about what I said made you think that I don't have good manners? All I am saying is that you need to be clear if you don't want them to stay. I like people to stay, you don't, great, people are different. I'm certainly not asking you to change that, but I am saying that people might not know that is how you feel. "Trying to be nice" is clearly not getting across the point. Tell them that you are unable to host. Be clear. Be firm. You will be happier, and so will they; nobody likes to intrude, but they might not realize that it is intrusive to you.

I am also introverted. Part of keeping my sanity around people is knowing I have a private place to retreat to.

1458... I am not an ass. I am an introvert who finds it physically draining to entertain people. I don't mind socializing but there is the whole world to socialize and pretend to be extroverted. In my home is where I draw the line. That's my one place.

1459 I do tell people, but not exactly how I said it here. I try to be nice but people don't get it. They expect you to cater to them. I find it to be rude. And its offensive that there is this notion that I need to change. No I don't. I am fine. If you don't get it maybe you need to change into a person with better manners. Everyone doesn't want you in their face all the time. There is room for all types of people.

I like overnight guests, but only some. We have few close friends and like talking until late. Then there's no rush to get to a hotel (and who would want to have good friends stay at a hotel anyway?)

Anonymous wrote:14:59 here-anyone who doesn't understand is probably extroverted. I am highly introverted and as silly as it sounds, it does feel a bit like an invasion of my space when people are in my house for a long time. My husband is an extrovert, so we have to compromise and actually do host people often, it's just usually for the shorter blocks of time that I'm more comfortable with. That way we each get a little bit of what we need.

Second 14:59 here. I am extremely extroverted. As is my child, who is always disappointed when houseguests leave as well. My husband is fine either way.

14:59 here-anyone who doesn't understand is probably extroverted. I am highly introverted and as silly as it sounds, it does feel a bit like an invasion of my space when people are in my house for a long time. My husband is an extrovert, so we have to compromise and actually do host people often, it's just usually for the shorter blocks of time that I'm more comfortable with. That way we each get a little bit of what we need.

Do you tell people this? If so, good for you. If not, this is your problem. I love overnight guests (except for in-laws, they can go to a hotel). It gives us so much more freedom to hang out. During bedtime, we can split up and have one person do bed and one entertain at home or out, and after we can all get back together. If only some of us want to hang out late, we can without bothering everyone else, and everything is more relaxed. We live in a 1000sq ft. unit with a kid and a dog, and we can have up to 3 visitors at a time for up to four or five days without problem. Then I need a little break. But, at least weekly a local friend sleeps over. If you don't like it, tell people, but don't assume that everyone is on the same page.

I'm with ya. I hate having overnight guests, or frankly, guests that stay longer than about 2 hours.

Most people aren't as anti-social or unwelcoming as you are. I don't know why anyone would want to stay with you either. Maybe they don't yet realize what a colossal ass you are.

I don't like people in my space. My home is a place of peace. I am not willing to compromise and be uncomfortable in my one place in the world that is peaceful. And its offensive that people think they can just burst into my space. Why would you even want to stay somewhere that is not going to be welcoming?

What's YOUR issue?

If you come into town, you need to book a hotel. Why is this an issue?