And OP, it doesn't sound like your friends are bragging either. Just talking about programs available. I don't consider that bragging. If anything, I find people here more modest and reserved because it's more diverse and you just get used to people not always agreeing with you or seeing things the same way.

Also in Ohio my initial feeling is the percentage of working moms is much lower and there is less diversity. I know it has it's problems and poorer areas, but most of the moms I know from Ohio who might post here lived in quaint well to do suburbs with few on subsidized lunch or in ESL. Here a lot of the budget goes to help these kids and teachers have to deal with large class sizes, so we are afraid our advanced kids will be left out, which they often are. Plus, more moms work or can't afford private school leaving them fewer resources and time to make up for what the school lacks. In addition, you have some of the smartest people in the US here who may have come from private schooling or from abroad, so naturally they want a high level of education. And many of the ESL moms are too busy to post on this forum so the discussion is skewed.

Anonymous wrote:That's funny OP. I agree with you. When we moved here from Ohio, we were surprised about how many people talked about how smart their kids were. It got to be so many that we thought every kid was in "gifted and talented". No one we knew in Ohio ever, ever talked about how smart or athletic or whatever their kids were. Midwestern modesty.

Also from flyover country. Where I grew up, it was considered bad taste/tacky/tempting the fates to brag about kids in any way. It was easy to figure out who the smart kids/top athletes were, they won all of the awards at the quarterly School Assemblies. And, yeah, these things tended to run in families. The parents were modestly proud. But no bragging, ever.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I find that if someone has an older kid in AAP, you find that out within 2 minutes of meeting them. Somehow they slip in that their kid goes to Mosby Woods or Louise Archer or Haycock (which you know if out of boundary for their home), etc, etc or that their child is in the AAP program.

I never mention it unless someone asks...but what usually happens is that people ask where my kids go to school, and when I tell them that the 2nd grader is here and the 4th grader is there, they ask why and I tell them...and then we move on.

I agree.

People ask. Things like "Oh, don't you have another kid?" (while waiting at pick up) or "I am surprised you are driving your kid to school instead of walking like the rest of us"

So I just say my kid goes to ---. Simple answer. If someone thinks that is bragging, well that is their issue, not mine.

That's funny OP. I agree with you. When we moved here from Ohio, we were surprised about how many people talked about how smart their kids were. It got to be so many that we thought every kid was in "gifted and talented". No one we knew in Ohio ever, ever talked about how smart or athletic or whatever their kids were. Midwestern modesty.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I find that if someone has an older kid in AAP, you find that out within 2 minutes of meeting them. Somehow they slip in that their kid goes to Mosby Woods or Louise Archer or Haycock (which you know if out of boundary for their home), etc, etc or that their child is in the AAP program.

I never mention it unless someone asks...but what usually happens is that people ask where my kids go to school, and when I tell them that the 2nd grader is here and the 4th grader is there, they ask why and I tell them...and then we move on.

Just here on DCUM, where there must be a dozen threads at any time devoted to it.

Honestly, I find that if someone has an older kid in AAP, you find that out within 2 minutes of meeting them. Somehow they slip in that their kid goes to Mosby Woods or Louise Archer or Haycock (which you know if out of boundary for their home), etc, etc or that their child is in the AAP program.

yes, I think it's talked about more since places like Fairfax group gifted and talented (i.e. advanced) kids together.

Few are gifted, but in FCPS a full 18% are "advanced." So yeah, I do expect my DC to be in that group.

In my circle, it isn't discussed, so I like most of the gifted threads on DCUMs because with a DC a few grade levels ahead in certain areas it helps me figure out how to handle it.

yes, but not in real life, just here on DCUM

OP-- yes. But in real life I don't hear it, just here on DCUM.

Not at all. I ignore it and do my thang.

In my circle, it's the when, if, are you doing this and that?