My mom was a hippie, feminist, working mom. She said she went to one LLL meeting and thought they were too militant about BF. She definitely judged parents who were really harsh with their children-either beating kids or saying really negative things to them. Overall, I rarely remember her saying anything negative or snarky about the way other people parented. I don't know if that was because she was the one doing the unconventional parenting, or whether mommy snarking just wasn't as much of a cultural thing in the 1970s.

My mother was (and is) uber judgmental. She judged your mom for EVERYTHING, and she wasn't anywhere near perfect herself.

Single mothers (how dare they have a child out of wedlock or divorce!!)and mothers that worked. We had one family move in our neighborhood where the mother worked and they were gossiped about all the time. Also, parents that let kids stay out after the street lights came on. Hee hee...too funny!!

I remember being very small and having my mother pour some haterade out on an aunt who didn't make my cousins write thank you notes.

My mother also judged other mothers who gave their kids what she thought of as too much independence, to whit, when my best friend in middle school installed a lock on her closet door. And then in high school I was not allowed to visit the house of a friend whose mom told my mom she had been an alcoholic 20 years before.

Hilarious retro commercials suggest you would be judged for making bad coffee.

Anonymous wrote:I know for a fact my mother judged other mothers who didn't care where their children were (as long as you're home before it's dark!) or who they were playing with. She also judged mothers who allowed their children to be weird (shaving the back of the head, wearing two different colored shoes, dying hair).

Yeah, my mother certainly judged other mothers for this too. OR, just in general, mothers who didn't seem to know much about their kids ("Oh, today's the day the Colonial Project is due?") or who were out of touch or flighty.

Working?

Having kids if you lived in an apartment instead of a house. Interracial relationships.

Anonymous wrote:Misusing apostrophes.

OP..here ya I know. my title is wrong. realized my typo after I hit publish. i was going to add that I did that and knew it but figured people would get it's a typo and not judge, but apparently I forgot I was on DCUM.

My mom did in home childcare, so she was fine with women that didn't SAH.

She did complain (judge) if they brought their kids over dirty, unfed and in their pjs.

I know my mother judged other mothers who spanked their children.

I know for a fact my mother judged other mothers who didn't care where their children were (as long as you're home before it's dark!) or who they were playing with. She also judged mothers who allowed their children to be weird (shaving the back of the head, wearing two different colored shoes, dying hair).

Anonymous wrote:So back 35 yrs ago did mothers judge other mothers as much as they do now?

My mom stayed home, but that was the norm back then. i only had a few friends growing up who's mothers worked. My siblings and i were all fomula fed and that was also the norm. We watched a lot of TV and McDonalds was pretty popular...remember the days of having birthday parties there? No one had heard of or cared about organic milk. so what did they spend their time caring about?

Soap operas, a la "Days of Our Lives"

Misusing apostrophes.

So back 35 yrs ago did mothers judge other mothers as much as they do now?

My mom stayed home, but that was the norm back then. i only had a few friends growing up who's mothers worked. My siblings and i were all fomula fed and that was also the norm. We watched a lot of TV and McDonalds was pretty popular...remember the days of having birthday parties there? No one had heard of or cared about organic milk. so what did they spend their time caring about?