On match you used to be able to show your photo only to people you contacted, so you could be discreet. I don't know how eharmony works but you have to show a recent photo to any person you want to consider you.

Anonymous wrote:hit submit too quickly. I 'm not ugly per se but I am by no means photogenic and don't have a picture more recent than from 10 yrs ago....My only photographers are 5 and 7 so...?ugh.

Get the 7 yr old to snap a pic or ask a friend or someone at the office.

Anonymous wrote:hit submit too quickly. I 'm not ugly per se but I am by no means photogenic and don't have a picture more recent than from 10 yrs ago....My only photographers are 5 and 7 so...?ugh.

Don't post an old picture; the other party might interpret that as negatively. If you are a 5-7, men who are way older and 0-0 will contact you.

hit submit too quickly. I 'm not ugly per se but I am by no means photogenic and don't have a picture more recent than from 10 yrs ago....My only photographers are 5 and 7 so...?ugh.

Plus, it's not like match where anyone could see it. Only your "matches" will.

Most men would pass by a profile with no photo. Not saying it's right, but that's the way it is. I'm a woman and come to think of it, I would pass by a man's profile sans photo.

ahhh, damn it.

I would be careful of people without a picture. You either post one or make it clear you're ready to email one once you're contacted.

deal breaker. I'd think you were hiding something.

are you ugly or discrete?

Have to.

Just joined yesterday, have been "talking" to a few people, but I am just not comfortable yet posting my picture online. Thoughts?