I think you are totally justified in being angry. But if you approach the teacher firing on all cylinders, it may well make the situation worse. I would try to calm down and go in with the approach that this must be a misunderstanding. If it turns out not to be, then you're perfectly right to go to the principal, to ask to change teachers, etc.

OP, settle down. Talk with the principal and let them know what's going on tomorrow morning. Tell your DD that she is not to respond to her teacher when she is called Molly. When the teacher gets in her face about not listening, DD is to look at her in confusion and say, "Oh. I thought you were talking to someone else since you kept saying Molly and my name is Sara." DD may get kicked out of class for this. Warn her that you will back her. Instruct her to go to the principal and tell the principal she got kicked out of class for not responding to a name that is not hers.

Op, calm down. Until you talk to the teacher you are overreacting.

Anonymous wrote:I don't disagree with your sentiment, OP, but until you actually talk to the teacher it's hard to know what's really going on.

OP here. Completely agree. I tried calling the teacher this evening but she has already left. I am so angry I am literally shaking. It's late now and I really need to vent. I do need to talk to her. I will make sure she gets her name right even if we change to a different class!

Anonymous wrote:I don't disagree with your sentiment, OP, but until you actually talk to the teacher it's hard to know what's really going on.

PP here -- I meant talk to her about this issue in particular.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the teacher is doing it on purpose like a mean girl would. That would be bad, having a teacher with issues like that as an adult. Can you change teachers?

OP here. That would be ideal and that's what I am trying to make happen. I am going to talk to the teacher and also asked dd to talk to her. I am also asking dd to talk to the school counselor because she's been so depressed about it. She's not her usual self at all. I am angry and very worried. She used to be such a happy girl and she has lost that sparks with this teacher.

The more I think about it, the angrier I am. It is simply impossible to get her name wrong when she is the only minority student of that race in the whole class. It is not a difficult foreign name. My dd has an American name with easy spelling. As simple and classic as the name Mary.

Maybe she's not very bright. In this case, talk to her bosses.

I don't disagree with your sentiment, OP, but until you actually talk to the teacher it's hard to know what's really going on.

OP here. I have talked to the teacher about dd before but it was about a different issue. Now I feel that she was just giving me lip service.

I do not believe she cares about my dd at all. DD is not even important enough for her to get the name right.

What's more, we are of a minority race and dd is the only one of that race in the class. I checked last year's year book and this teacher did not have a student of the wrong name in her class. I don't know why or how she mistaken dd for a completely different person.

How can the teacher fairly evaluate my daughter, when she does not even know her name? If I perform like that at my job, I would be fired for sure. Even if the teacher takes a whole day to remember one name, she should have gotten all the names by now.

It is not a one time thing. DD said she called her "Susan" every time.

Ok - again - OP, have you actually spoken to the teacher about this problem?

Maybe the teacher is doing it on purpose like a mean girl would. That would be bad, having a teacher with issues like that as an adult. Can you change teachers?

OP here. My daughter's name is not unusual at all. It's a classic name with the regular spelling.

Say my dd's name is Mary. The teacher keeps calling her Susan. Every single day.

Our teacher spelled our kid's (uncommon) name wrong on a paper sent home. But it's spelled right in the cubby. So I know it was just laziness or forgetfulness and not habitual. I've also heard her transpose letters and stuff like that in other children's (unusual) names.

If this is a calling Jessica "Jennifer" thing, I'd forget about it. If she's calling Sam "Stuart" today and "Bob" tomorrow, then that's odd.

Have you talked to the teacher directly about it yourself? It seems to me that you can't really complain until you've at least taken that step.

Is it excusable? The class only has 22 students. DD is in elementary school. The teacher only teaches this one class.

The teacher called her the same wrong name every time. I feel that it's worse than forgetting her name because the teacher has mistaken dd for a completely different person.

DD has always been a very good student. She told me that she feels that this teacher doesn't like her. I don't blame dd for feeling this way at all. How can she feels good about herself, when the teacher does not even bother to remember her name?

DD corrects her teacher every time and the teacher just doesn't seem to care.

I think I will start calling her Mrs. Smith until she gets my dd's name right.