True pp. I love my husband but I lust after this other man who is very different from my husband. I would never cheat but I can dream.

Anonymous wrote:Our RE (Reproductive Endocrinologist) told us in a conversation about using donor eggs that in randomized DNA studies of the general population 5% of all children are not the biological kids of the men married to their mothers in situations where those men think they are the father. This seems high to me, but he isn't a man to quote statistics lightly.

I would think it would be higher actually. I wouldn't be surprised in the future if it is higher. There's a difference between the genes you want to mate with versus which mate you feel would best provide for and raise a family. I guess it makes logical sense that women want to get knocked up by 'alpha-men' but have their children being raised in a family of a 'beta-man' that the settle down with.

Anonymous wrote:Where I come from there is a saying which, loosely translated, goes like this: "a woman never gives birth to a bastard", meaning she can always pass her children off as her husband's.
My mum's very good friend passed off her last, supposedly "oops" daughter as her husband's. She is now dead and, to this day, that child, now in her 40s, is the apple of her "father's" eye.

Unless she isn't married when she gets pregnant and has the baby.

Where ignorance is bliss, tis folly to be wise.

Where I come from there is a saying which, loosely translated, goes like this: "a woman never gives birth to a bastard", meaning she can always pass her children off as her husband's.
My mum's very good friend passed off her last, supposedly "oops" daughter as her husband's. She is now dead and, to this day, that child, now in her 40s, is the apple of her "father's" eye.

Not me, but boy do I wish XH wasn't DC's biological father.

OP, you can just say "cuckolding" rather than typing out the whole thing!

Eh, give them a sense of purpose in life.

Agreed. Why should the father have any less certainty than the mother.

Our RE (Reproductive Endocrinologist) told us in a conversation about using donor eggs that in randomized DNA studies of the general population 5% of all children are not the biological kids of the men married to their mothers in situations where those men think they are the father. This seems high to me, but he isn't a man to quote statistics lightly.

This isn't something new. They should be doing mandatory paternity testing at birth before putting a name on a birth certificate.

Anonymous wrote:No mandatory tests, this is evolution at work.

What do you mean?

My BIL raised one that wasn't his for a year. ExSIL finally came clean. He tried to stay married anyway (for his kids) but it wasn't something he could live with.

No mandatory tests, this is evolution at work.

http://living.msn.com/life-inspired/are-you-raising-another-mans-child

So how many on DCUM do you think this applies to?

As for the ladies on here, fess up...anyone keeping true paternity a secret from their significant other/DH?

To that end, should mandatory paternity testing be instituted so this is caught from the beginning?