Which begs the question, why would you spend so much if nobody notices except you???

My DH hates it. I don't tell him until after the fact. Whenever I go, there is always a joke about how NO husbands know. I told the receptionist that my husband would die if he knew how much I spent, she just laughed and said that I sounded like everyone. You are not going to look like you just had a facelift. I had filler and botox and my husband could not tell the difference. Mostly because the changes are so subtle.

Anonymous wrote:Why is he against it? Cost or some other reason?

If it's cost, you have to respect his wishes.

I'm not comfortable with "respect his wishes." Marriage is a partnership. They need to make financial decisions together. The cost may be a very legitimate concern for their family. I was wondering if he has medical concerns which may also be very legitimate. We're not talking about dh being opposed to you choosing a certain nail polish color. This is about injecting something into your face.

Why is he against it? Cost or some other reason?

If it's cost, you have to respect his wishes.

He has to look at your face way more than you do. Maybe he really loves how you look.

Anonymous wrote:Why does your dh get to decide? Its your face.

+ 1. Also, I agree that he doesn't necessarily need to know. Maybe start using Retin-A or some other "miracle" cream that you tell him about and weeks later, add Botox to the mix and say nothing. He'll probably assume any change is due to change in your skincare.

Anonymous wrote:I think my DH would be against it.

I am 36 but was mistaken for a nanny at our pool this summer. I also get carded all the time. My oldest is 7. Not worried about it for the moment.

Then what's the point of your post?

very unhelpful

Anonymous wrote:Why does he have to know?

right - b/c he'll NEVER see the difference

DH here. Ultimately, it is your face, so of course you have the final say.

I think a lot of men prefer the "real" look of a woman, not an artificially "improved" look with Botox. If you're 37, there is nothing wrong with having some wrinkles. It would be weird if parts of your face look like they are much younger.

But again -- it's your body, just wanted to let you know how I look at it.

Why does your dh get to decide? Its your face.

I think my DH would be against it.

I am 36 but was mistaken for a nanny at our pool this summer. I also get carded all the time. My oldest is 7. Not worried about it for the moment.

Mine is against it too and it drives me nuts! I am starting to seriously consider it and every time I mention it, he balks. Mentions some actress who has gone too far and freaks me out. I will still probably do it, but his attitude makes me wait and wonder.

I'd consider his opinion but would still do it if I felt strongly. I plan to do it before I turn 30.

Why does he have to know?

Would you still do it? I am 38, with some emerging wrinkles on the forehead. Have a great dermatologist. DH feels very strongly against it.