Anonymous
Post 08/31/2012 09:03     Subject: Every time I see an ultrasound or baby announcement on FB, I want to cry.
OP here - I found out about not one, but THREE pregnancies yesterday! And I am still getting the "when are you guys going to have kids" question from people who are having babies because I have been married longer than most of them (what is with my friends all having babies within a year of getting married?). So while I am going to try really hard to live by that quote above, it's hard!
Anonymous
Post 08/31/2012 08:48     Subject: Re:Every time I see an ultrasound or baby announcement on FB, I want to cry.
I know- it seems like everyone I know is having kids, even people who "swore" they never would. it is, however, better than people asking you when you're going to have kids.
Anonymous
Post 08/31/2012 07:12     Subject: Every time I see an ultrasound or baby announcement on FB, I want to cry.
I love that quote too. Thank you, PP. I am the worst at comparing myself to others. And I am so very sorry for all that you have experienced. Those losses are incomprehensible.
Anonymous
Post 08/30/2012 23:02     Subject: Re:Every time I see an ultrasound or baby announcement on FB, I want to cry.
Anonymous wrote:I don't get on FB anymore. After my son died (stillborn) I was still able to log on and participate, but generally avoided the "happy mom and baby" posts. But it's just too much. So after another late loss and 2 early miscarriages, I've determined it's better for my sanity if I don't log on anymore. It's been over a year now and it feels great.

After all, "Comparison is the thief of joy" -- Teddy Roosevelt, wise man. I try to look at the blessings right in front of me, rather than thinking about what others have.

But I'm still tempted now and then for a little peek at what could have been...

Sorry for your losses PP.
Anonymous
Post 08/30/2012 22:32     Subject: Every time I see an ultrasound or baby announcement on FB, I want to cry.
I am not on FB. Has nothing to do with IF, just desire for privacy.
Anonymous
Post 08/30/2012 20:11     Subject: Every time I see an ultrasound or baby announcement on FB, I want to cry.
My husband just told me about friends who are 12 weeks pregnant (his friend texted him the news). We attended their wedding about that long ago.

Thank you for the quote 17:47, I will try to keep that in mind, but it's hard. And I'm so sorry for your losses.
Anonymous
Post 08/30/2012 19:35     Subject: Every time I see an ultrasound or baby announcement on FB, I want to cry.
I don't have Facebook at all but you still can't help hearing about folks baby news. I went from feeling miserable about it to feeling genuinely happy and excited for people.
Anonymous
Post 08/30/2012 18:04     Subject: Re:Every time I see an ultrasound or baby announcement on FB, I want to cry.
Anonymous wrote:, "Comparison is the thief of joy" -- Teddy Roosevelt, wise man. ...


I had never heard this before- great quote. Thanks.
Anonymous
Post 08/30/2012 17:47     Subject: Re:Every time I see an ultrasound or baby announcement on FB, I want to cry.
I don't get on FB anymore. After my son died (stillborn) I was still able to log on and participate, but generally avoided the "happy mom and baby" posts. But it's just too much. So after another late loss and 2 early miscarriages, I've determined it's better for my sanity if I don't log on anymore. It's been over a year now and it feels great.

After all, "Comparison is the thief of joy" -- Teddy Roosevelt, wise man. I try to look at the blessings right in front of me, rather than thinking about what others have.

But I'm still tempted now and then for a little peek at what could have been...
Anonymous
Post 08/30/2012 15:44     Subject: Re:Every time I see an ultrasound or baby announcement on FB, I want to cry.
Anonymous wrote:((HUGS))

The sad thing is that this doesn't go away. I don't think the scars of infertility ever heal. I just found out that a friend of mine is due a week BEFORE me. We got pregnant right after their wedding, which means they got pregnant on their honeymoon. I am thrilled for them, and yet still insanely jealous.


PP Congratulations!
Anonymous
Post 08/30/2012 15:43     Subject: Every time I see an ultrasound or baby announcement on FB, I want to cry.
Anonymous wrote:I hear you OP. I'm still a little sad when it happens but mostly numb to it now. How long have you been trying and are you using treatments? Keep hope alive!


I haven't been trying for as long as many people on this board and so far without treatment, but I guess I am still pretty raw from a miscarriage earlier this year. It doesn't help that I work with a woman who is due the exact same week as I would have been due so I see/hear about her progress all the time and it just kills me. Then I turn around and see all these FB announcements and there's no way to block unexpected news, you know?
Anonymous
Post 08/30/2012 15:16     Subject: Re:Every time I see an ultrasound or baby announcement on FB, I want to cry.
((HUGS))

The sad thing is that this doesn't go away. I don't think the scars of infertility ever heal. I just found out that a friend of mine is due a week BEFORE me. We got pregnant right after their wedding, which means they got pregnant on their honeymoon. I am thrilled for them, and yet still insanely jealous.
Anonymous
Post 08/30/2012 14:59     Subject: Every time I see an ultrasound or baby announcement on FB, I want to cry.
I hear you OP. I'm still a little sad when it happens but mostly numb to it now. How long have you been trying and are you using treatments? Keep hope alive!
Anonymous
Post 08/30/2012 14:21     Subject: Every time I see an ultrasound or baby announcement on FB, I want to cry.
Hugs, OP. Keep the faith and fake the smiles for the friend.
Anonymous
Post 08/30/2012 14:17     Subject: Every time I see an ultrasound or baby announcement on FB, I want to cry.
I am so thrilled for the parents of today's announcement (the third in two weeks) b/c they are really amazing people, but it's so hard not to be sad.