Anonymous
08/27/2012 11:35
Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation
There isn't public preschool in the burbs unless dc is SN or poor.
OP, it is SO hard to find a job when you don't have a job. I can't emphasize this enough. Employers will assume your DH was fired. (Because only crazy people quit their jobs without finding abother one first, right? )
Your DH needs to suck it up and put all his spare energy into finding something new. Once he has a new poisition lined up, he can take a few weeks to recharge between the jobs.
OP, it is SO hard to find a job when you don't have a job. I can't emphasize this enough. Employers will assume your DH was fired. (Because only crazy people quit their jobs without finding abother one first, right? )
Your DH needs to suck it up and put all his spare energy into finding something new. Once he has a new poisition lined up, he can take a few weeks to recharge between the jobs.
Anonymous
08/27/2012 11:23
Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation
Anonymous wrote:My DH quit his horrible job before finding a new one. He was depressed and it was ruining his health. I could not stand seeing my husband so upset.
However, i do work FT, so I carried the household for a while.
He quickly found a new job after decompressing. His new job is closer to home, more money, and more respect. I think it all depends on what field you are in. Also, when he quit he had a lot of people reach out to him.
We're in the exact same situation. Sometimes the consequences of staying are just too much.
Anonymous
08/27/2012 11:15
Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation
Have your husband meet with a recruiter that speicalizes in his field and go from there. Yes, it's a tough job market, but companies are always looking for hard working people. From the sound of your post seems like your DH specializes in IT. Tons of jobs out there!
Anonymous
08/27/2012 11:09
Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation
Anonymous wrote:Please share your tips to save money.
I SAH with our 2 children. DC1 is starting school in the fall 4 mornings per week. We rent in the suburbs.
After 10 years with this company DH finally had enough. He is tired of the way they're treating him (they complain when he asks for sick days - never had to before we had kids but now it's more frequent) they're not family friendly at all, no respect for his career (his salary is 30% lower than market average, no respect for his personal time (gets calls at all hours at night and over the weekend where he had to loging to fix stuff) it got to the point that he said he could not do something his manager yelled saying "get your wife to drive so you can join us" talking about a conference call happening during his vacation. We were driving cross country and DH was driving when he got this call.
Anyway, we have no debt. Our monthly bills are rent, health insurance, groceries, gas, utilities and now DC's school. I just got a deal with our cable service so we're paying 50% less there.
DH's company pays for phone and half of our health insurance so we're waiting to see how this will work during his break.
What are your tips?
Cancel the private school. Gas costs will go down with him not working. Do grocery shopping at Costco when possible rather than Giant.
Your husband should go to Starbucks everyday and apply for new positions. Unpaid leave is not an answer to the problem with his current position.
Anonymous
08/27/2012 10:59
Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation
My DH quit his horrible job before finding a new one. He was depressed and it was ruining his health. I could not stand seeing my husband so upset.
However, i do work FT, so I carried the household for a while.
He quickly found a new job after decompressing. His new job is closer to home, more money, and more respect. I think it all depends on what field you are in. Also, when he quit he had a lot of people reach out to him.
However, i do work FT, so I carried the household for a while.
He quickly found a new job after decompressing. His new job is closer to home, more money, and more respect. I think it all depends on what field you are in. Also, when he quit he had a lot of people reach out to him.
Anonymous
08/27/2012 10:58
Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation
Public school and you don't NEED cable.
Anonymous
08/27/2012 10:56
Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Curious if your DH has a low self-esteem or self worth?
why on earth woud he stick with that company for this long??
Is it difficult to find a new job in his career field?
There has to be a reason why he has stuck it out this long...
OP?
Oh come on, really? It's tough to get a new (and better) job in this market.
that may be the case but HE WILL NOT get a new job until he starts looking for one. he'd better get busy.
Anonymous
08/27/2012 10:51
Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation
Anonymous wrote:Curious if your DH has a low self-esteem or self worth?
why on earth woud he stick with that company for this long??
Is it difficult to find a new job in his career field?
There has to be a reason why he has stuck it out this long...
OP?
Oh come on, really? It's tough to get a new (and better) job in this market.
Anonymous
08/27/2012 10:48
Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation
Curious if your DH has a low self-esteem or self worth?
why on earth woud he stick with that company for this long??
Is it difficult to find a new job in his career field?
There has to be a reason why he has stuck it out this long...
OP?
why on earth woud he stick with that company for this long??
Is it difficult to find a new job in his career field?
There has to be a reason why he has stuck it out this long...
OP?
Anonymous
08/27/2012 10:48
Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation
So he's resigning? I would strongly encourage that he get a new job BEFORE quitting. Generally employed candidates are more desirable.
Anonymous
08/27/2012 10:47
Subject: Re:DH is taking unpaid vacation
I agree with PP. You're husband should be looking for a job.
Anonymous
08/27/2012 10:46
Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation
Unpaid vacation? How long? Or is that another way of saying that he quit?
Anonymous
08/27/2012 10:45
Subject: Re:DH is taking unpaid vacation
DH needs to get a new job before he leaves his current job. I'd be pissed if I were he, but I'd also be worried about being fired. Then you'd be up shit creek.
cb21
08/27/2012 10:43
Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation
I don't think you should try to save money... DH should find a new job.
Anonymous
08/27/2012 10:38
Subject: DH is taking unpaid vacation
Please share your tips to save money.
I SAH with our 2 children. DC1 is starting school in the fall 4 mornings per week. We rent in the suburbs.
After 10 years with this company DH finally had enough. He is tired of the way they're treating him (they complain when he asks for sick days - never had to before we had kids but now it's more frequent) they're not family friendly at all, no respect for his career (his salary is 30% lower than market average, no respect for his personal time (gets calls at all hours at night and over the weekend where he had to loging to fix stuff) it got to the point that he said he could not do something his manager yelled saying "get your wife to drive so you can join us" talking about a conference call happening during his vacation. We were driving cross country and DH was driving when he got this call.
Anyway, we have no debt. Our monthly bills are rent, health insurance, groceries, gas, utilities and now DC's school. I just got a deal with our cable service so we're paying 50% less there.
DH's company pays for phone and half of our health insurance so we're waiting to see how this will work during his break.
What are your tips?
I SAH with our 2 children. DC1 is starting school in the fall 4 mornings per week. We rent in the suburbs.
After 10 years with this company DH finally had enough. He is tired of the way they're treating him (they complain when he asks for sick days - never had to before we had kids but now it's more frequent) they're not family friendly at all, no respect for his career (his salary is 30% lower than market average, no respect for his personal time (gets calls at all hours at night and over the weekend where he had to loging to fix stuff) it got to the point that he said he could not do something his manager yelled saying "get your wife to drive so you can join us" talking about a conference call happening during his vacation. We were driving cross country and DH was driving when he got this call.
Anyway, we have no debt. Our monthly bills are rent, health insurance, groceries, gas, utilities and now DC's school. I just got a deal with our cable service so we're paying 50% less there.
DH's company pays for phone and half of our health insurance so we're waiting to see how this will work during his break.
What are your tips?