with all due respect, the response to this request is exactly why a gifted child forum (or the like) would be so helpful. i feel like i'm not allowed to talk to other parents about my kid because he's super smart and very advanced. a good problem to have, to be sure, but if i mention that i'm worried about him being bored in K, or the books he's read, or the games plays, I get snide comments about how much we must drill him (we don't). it seems like it is perfectly appropriate to talk about special needs children, but not to talk about "special needs" kids.
the forum doesn't have to be limited to AAP, but could be more expansive.