Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:::SIGH::

She is getting ready to give birth this fall. I want to cry every time I think about it.

She is living with her husband - they got married during her senior year at Christmas, who is the manager of a hardware store and does home improvement jobs on the side.

Well, he's nice and she's happy and they love each other, this seems like a path that lots of young Americans take. So try not to think so "DC-area" about it and be a supportive grandparent, or at least act like it.

Immediate PP - meant to say, "Well, IF he's nice..."

Anonymous wrote:::SIGH::

She is getting ready to give birth this fall. I want to cry every time I think about it.

She is living with her husband - they got married during her senior year at Christmas, who is the manager of a hardware store and does home improvement jobs on the side.

Well, he's nice and she's happy and they love each other, this seems like a path that lots of young Americans take. So try not to think so "DC-area" about it and be a supportive grandparent, or at least act like it.

::SIGH::

She is getting ready to give birth this fall. I want to cry every time I think about it.

She is living with her husband - they got married during her senior year at Christmas, who is the manager of a hardware store and does home improvement jobs on the side.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of us don't get help from our parents and found a job and are living within our means., like grown ups.

Great. Are you a recent grad? Did you get a job? In your field? Did you go or plan to go to grad school? I never had help from my parents either, but I'm asking about how things look for recent grads 30 years later.

I am a recent grad and I did get a job in my field. I did go to grad school right after undergrad. I'm just saying, your 25 year old doesn't need an allowance.

Parent of college student here. So how many grads are employed in their field right after college or grad school? In my sampling of nieces and nephews (scattered around the country), it seems about 20% in field employment rate after college graduation. And I see a fair amount of parental financial contributions.

I can't speak for the field, but as far as I am aware 90%+ of my classmates are employed in the field (some exceptions include pregnancy/military/further education). I know there are more applicants than jobs out there, but if I did not have a job in my field I would still be working at Starbucks or something else to make ends meet.

I know plenty of people who are in their 20s, employed, and receive assistance from their parents so they can afford a bigger apartment in a cooler part of DC. I have reservations about these peoples' ability to ever support themselves because they are so used to having help from their parents.

My 23 yo is getting ready to start her 2nd year of grad school. She's working (full time this summer and part time during the semester) in her field (nutrition) for spending money and uses her dad's GI bill for living expenses. She went straight to grad school from undergrad.

I have a feeling my 19 yo (who's going to start her sophomore year this fall) will end up back with us until we kick her out. :/

I have a 26 and 28 yo. Both found jobs in their fields after graduating. We gave both the option of living at home for a year rent free to save money. One took us up on it the other didn't. They've both remained gainfully employed and self-supporting since. It can be done.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of us don't get help from our parents and found a job and are living within our means., like grown ups.

Great. Are you a recent grad? Did you get a job? In your field? Did you go or plan to go to grad school? I never had help from my parents either, but I'm asking about how things look for recent grads 30 years later.

I am a recent grad and I did get a job in my field. I did go to grad school right after undergrad. I'm just saying, your 25 year old doesn't need an allowance.

Parent of college student here. So how many grads are employed in their field right after college or grad school? In my sampling of nieces and nephews (scattered around the country), it seems about 20% in field employment rate after college graduation. And I see a fair amount of parental financial contributions.

And I saw this in recent topics. I don't hang out here.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of us don't get help from our parents and found a job and are living within our means., like grown ups.

Great. Are you a recent grad? Did you get a job? In your field? Did you go or plan to go to grad school? I never had help from my parents either, but I'm asking about how things look for recent grads 30 years later.

I am a recent grad and I did get a job in my field. I did go to grad school right after undergrad.

I'm just saying, your 25 year old doesn't need an allowance.

Our oldest is '11; he's doing Teach for America; this will be his second year. He plans to work in NY next year for a consulting firm where he worked the summer before senior year. His thinking is to do that for a year or two and then go to business or law school. This last year he has refused to take money from us, other than gifts -- e.g., his bike was stolen, so we gave him DH's old bike and DH bought a new one.

Anonymous wrote:Some of us don't get help from our parents and found a job and are living within our means., like grown ups.

Great. Are you a recent grad? Did you get a job? In your field? Did you go or plan to go to grad school? I never had help from my parents either, but I'm asking about how things look for recent grads 30 years later.

Some of us don't get help from our parents and found a job and are living within our means., like grown ups.

Pp, do you have a 26 yo living with you?

The dream of permanent assistance and now healthcare. Kids can do nothing until age 27

I have one in college now but have lots of older nieces and nephews in different states. Seems most take a year before heading to grad school with just one or two working in their field right after college graduation. And they are all getting some financial support from home (and several live at home). So just wondering what life's like around here for your recent college grads?