Husband is a lazy ass. OP, don't even think of kids with him! Such a jerk.

I think dh doesn't want sex because he can't stand his wife. But like a SAHM, feels stuck due to money. They both sound like losers, but based on op's posts, the wife is a loser and a huge bitch. Makes me feel bad for the husband.

I get the impression that this entire thread has been created by one person have a conversation with him/herself.

She is a bitch; he is a bum. They deserve each other.

They can have kids, but wife will do all the work raising them. She can't have it all, and she can't expect the DH to be a different person. He has shown you who he is, now your move.

Wife sounds like a piece of work. Sounds like the real reason she's upset is because he won't fuck her. Which IS a good reason, but enough with the "he doesn't earn enough money so is not a real man" rap.

We decided to buy a fixer-up house together. There's no question that the house needs renovation. The issue is whose project is it. I think it's both, he thinks it's mine.

Hah, we don't have sex any more. He doesn't want to even thought I try to seduce him (ha ha). He sees a therapist, but is not depressed or anything, so it's not a medical issue. Maybe a working woman isn't sexy?

Wife sounds like a bitch for sure. Was none of this discussed? Did you decide to renovate on your own and are now pissed husband won't help? Thank goodness no kids are involved!!

OP here. I am not evil (you're gonna have to trust me on that once since you don't know me) and certainly didn't marry so I could take it easy and not have to work the rest of my life. We both have multiple advanced degrees as I have said.

Husband is a loser, dump him before you have kids... That will be their male role model. How do you have sex with him anymore?? I would be so turned off.

OP here. It's been 5 years and DH does not want FT job because it will interfere with his research. Honestly I'd love for someone to fund my research too...um, can i research cupcakes all day? But I can't because I have to work work work.

Is the husband looking for a job and can't find any? At least he's trying?

The wife here is evil. She should expect to support hubby bc now you guys are team. Did you marry him so he could support you and you don;t have to work? Typical gold digger. Sorry your plan didn't work. Be a team player!

Ok stay married, divorce or something else? DW makes 6-figures with great benefits, works 40 hours a week in a job she dislikes but it covers all of bills. DH has a part-time job (20 hours week/$15 hour) and works on research/book proposals the rest of the time. In her down time, DW works on renovating the house they bought and is tired of DH not contributing (no money and no sweat equity) to the project. DH is tired of helping wife out on "her" renovation project and wants credit for doing his research/book proposal and considers it a job although it does not pay. Both have advanced degrees, no kids. Both DW and DH feel under appreciated. Is DW a nagging b1tch? Is DH a lazy bum? Say what you would do if you were DW/DH.