Anonymous
06/18/2012 11:01
Subject: I follow Catholic teaching on contraception. Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Please explain how thos makes sense in a way other than men trying to control women's bodies.
Quite the opposite. This is empowering to women, while contraception results in men controlling women, body, heart, mind, and soul.
When sex is inextricably linked to the possibility of procreation, the full power of a woman is present. Think of it this way: if a man walks up to a woman in a bar and says, "I want to have sex with you," that is one thing. If a man walks up to a woman in a bar and says, "I want to have a baby with you," that is something entirely different. Because making love and possibly creating a new life is heavy. It requires commitment, fidelity, vulnerability, trust, patience, courage, and mutual respect. The woman is not an object to be used, but a whole person.
It is both the man and the woman who are required to control their bodies if they are not ready for the possibility of a new life when the woman does not use artificial contraception. Mutual communication and respect is essential.
Anyone who reads DCUM for any length of time sees the fallout of contraceptive sex: disagreements about having another baby. Resentment because one partner wanted a baby more than the other. No sex drive. Feeling used when TTC.
This is not a random rule, like driving on the right side of the road. This is the essence, the real truth, of the meaning of sex. If sex is disrespected, if its full meaning is not appreciated, then negative consequences follow.
So it is not about control, but about freedom. Freedom is not about doing whatever you want, but about choosing to do what is right.
That is utterly preposterous. If a woman or a man uses contraception, you're saying there's no communication about when to have another baby?? Are you for real?
There can't mutual respect and communication and birth control? You can't choose to do what's right and use birth control? You're crazy.
Anonymous
06/18/2012 10:59
Subject: I follow Catholic teaching on contraception. Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How often do you have sex and how many children do you have.
I have a large family, and it is rare that we do not make love daily. Usually the only thing that gets in the way is the occasional illness.
How many children do you have? It not a difficult question!
Anonymous
06/18/2012 10:59
Subject: I follow Catholic teaching on contraception. Ask me anything.
I am amazed that there are folks who make love daily! Is this common? Do you all work out of the home?
Anonymous
06/18/2012 10:57
Subject: I follow Catholic teaching on contraception. Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:With so much misinformation out there, I wanted to make myself available for questions. Peace!
What do you see as misinformation out there? List some examples and then tell us the real story.
By the way, saying you have a "large family" doesn't provide much information, as that definition varies by person. And if you're having sex daily, how is that representative of following Catholic teachings on contraception, seeing as how you apparently don't have ANY down time that would allow for "natural family planning"?
Anonymous
06/18/2012 10:55
Subject: I follow Catholic teaching on contraception. Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:I don't think there's misinformation out there. I think there's information out there that you don't agree with, and there are a lot of people who don't agree with you. That doesn't make it misinformation.
Bingo.
Signed, a Catholic who uses birth control
Anonymous
06/18/2012 10:55
Subject: I follow Catholic teaching on contraception. Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:Please explain how thos makes sense in a way other than men trying to control women's bodies.
Quite the opposite. This is empowering to women, while contraception results in men controlling women, body, heart, mind, and soul.
When sex is inextricably linked to the possibility of procreation, the full power of a woman is present. Think of it this way: if a man walks up to a woman in a bar and says, "I want to have sex with you," that is one thing. If a man walks up to a woman in a bar and says, "I want to have a baby with you," that is something entirely different. Because making love and possibly creating a new life is heavy. It requires commitment, fidelity, vulnerability, trust, patience, courage, and mutual respect. The woman is not an object to be used, but a whole person.
It is both the man and the woman who are required to control their bodies if they are not ready for the possibility of a new life when the woman does not use artificial contraception. Mutual communication and respect is essential.
Anyone who reads DCUM for any length of time sees the fallout of contraceptive sex: disagreements about having another baby. Resentment because one partner wanted a baby more than the other. No sex drive. Feeling used when TTC.
This is not a random rule, like driving on the right side of the road. This is the essence, the real truth, of the meaning of sex. If sex is disrespected, if its full meaning is not appreciated, then negative consequences follow.
So it is not about control, but about freedom. Freedom is not about doing whatever you want, but about choosing to do what is right.
Anonymous
06/18/2012 10:52
Subject: I follow Catholic teaching on contraception. Ask me anything.
I don't think there's misinformation out there. I think there's information out there that you don't agree with, and there are a lot of people who don't agree with you. That doesn't make it misinformation.
Anonymous
06/18/2012 10:43
Subject: I follow Catholic teaching on contraception. Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:How often do you have sex and how many children do you have.
I have a large family, and it is rare that we do not make love daily. Usually the only thing that gets in the way is the occasional illness.
Anonymous
06/18/2012 10:42
Subject: I follow Catholic teaching on contraception. Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:Are you against IVF and other artificial reproductive technologies?
I follow Church teaching on ART, as well, so IVF is illicit, but there are licit options which are highly effective, such as NaPro Technology. The Pope Paul VI Institute is one provider of such licit options.
Anonymous
06/18/2012 10:20
Subject: I follow Catholic teaching on contraception. Ask me anything.
How often do you have sex and how many children do you have.
Anonymous
06/18/2012 10:00
Subject: I follow Catholic teaching on contraception. Ask me anything.
Sounds like a great plan if you want 3-30 kids. Good luck with that. I know several people who do it and they all have "oops" kids.
Anonymous
06/18/2012 09:59
Subject: I follow Catholic teaching on contraception. Ask me anything.
Are you against IVF and other artificial reproductive technologies?
Anonymous
06/18/2012 09:46
Subject: I follow Catholic teaching on contraception. Ask me anything.
Please explain how thos makes sense in a way other than men trying to control women's bodies.
Anonymous
06/18/2012 09:42
Subject: I follow Catholic teaching on contraception. Ask me anything.
Do you care whether other people take contraception? Do you think that employers should be able to intervene as to what contraceptives are available to their employees? Why not just let the employee use their own conscience to decide whether to take contraception?
Anonymous
06/18/2012 09:35
Subject: I follow Catholic teaching on contraception. Ask me anything.
With so much misinformation out there, I wanted to make myself available for questions. Peace!