We adopted our son and daughter from Russia when they were 7 & 8. Very similar circumstances. There are agencies in the states who facilitate the adoption of older kids in bad circumstances. Cradle of Hope in Silver Spring , Md is one agency.

Sounds like all 3 parents have let them down. Good thing they had a grandma. Are they in the US OP or are they in another country? I am wandering in terms of suggesting assistance.

OP's brother sounds like a monster. What country is this OP?

I think the kids mother is the one who has been the worst to them by leaving them in this world without her.

Her brother sounds more like the turd here. He cheated on the kids' mom. And he can't keep a job. And he puts up with his wife's BS towards HIS kids, HIS responsibility. His mom takes care of HIS kids. He's sounds like a piece of crap. Sorry for being so harsh OP, but he does.

I disagree. There is more to the story.
A woman bashing her sil is nothing new on these forums

Anonymous wrote:Yep, you need to be a healthy white infant to get adopted.
And they have a family
Do not be too harsh on their stepmother. A woman looks after her own children and cares for them. In some ways a step mother does not have any obligations to the children a man had with another woman. The father is the one who should step up

Don't want to derail the thread, but after reading OP's two posts, the stepmother sounds like a horrible piece of trash, same as the father.

Pp... I did not think of that. I know they belong to a small church so I will ask her to talk to them. Thank you!

Sorry about the whole family situation...very sad. Your mother is a good woman for supporting her grandkids, as are you.

Is there any way your mother could maybe speak on their behalf to an organization that would help, maybe a religious organization that could adopt them out?

Yep, you need to be a healthy white infant to get adopted.
And they have a family
Do not be too harsh on their stepmother. A woman looks after her own children and cares for them. In some ways a step mother does not have any obligations to the children a man had with another woman. The father is the one who should step up

Well this is why I am so troubled. There is absolutely no one to take them. My brothers wife will not look after them and if my brother takes them and she leaves him, how will he provide for them. Life isn't like it is here where you can get help. When my niece was younger her stepmother left her in the bathtub for over an hr after draining out all the water. She has been doing little mean things to her all the time. I asked my mother to try and get in touch with tge kids maternal side of the family but she said she tried so many times and they don't respond. It's all just extremely sad. My mother is sick constantly and her life has not been easy.

Sorry to hear they are likely too old now. They would have been adopted in a snap when their mother died.

Also, even with money being tight, if they are loved by their grandma and extended family, it is better for them to stay With family than been given to adoption.

Now, if their family really can't support them (food, shelter, clothes and other basic necessities), that is a different story.

Good luck.

Do you have other family in your home country who can adopt the children if your mom dies?

I'm so sad. My mom takes care of my 7 yr old niece and 6 year old nephew in a different country. Their mother died when they were 2 and 2 months old. My brother hasn't managed to keep a job in all of his adult life. He married a women with a good career and she basically takes care of him and together they have two kids. His wife loves her two children and it seems like she really dislikes the other two. She ignores them when they are around her and doesn't even wish then for their birthdays. She buys toys and clothes for her children all the time and the older two don't get anything except for when I send money to get them bday or Xmas gifts. My mother works extremely hard to take care of the kids but money is so tight that there isn't anything left over after rent and utilities are paid. My mom has been extremely sick recently and found out she has a heart condition. She is so worried about what will happen to the kids of she dies, especially the little girl. She can't leave them with my brother because they will be I'll treated by the stepmother and there isn't anyone else for these kids to go to. I have a child and a stepdaughter and I too can barely make it on the salary I earn. I'm trying my best to get into school so I can get a degree. I wish I could find someone to adopt these children. People who will treat them well and love them and I could visit them from time to time. I wish circumstancems were better for these children, they don't deserve this. The worst part about this is that their mother committed suicide bc my brother was having an affair with his now wife. Of course the wife never brings that up and no one else does either. It makes me so angry every time I think about it. I dislike both of them for that and don't think I can forgive them.