it doesn't matter what "he" looks like. He works all the time to support his family. As the wife, your job is to look hot and sexy for him. Again, it does NOT matter what he looks like.

Anonymous wrote:Find a hot male personal trainer with a sexy accent.

Exactly!

Find a hot male personal trainer with a sexy accent.

Anonymous wrote:So go to the gym. The exercise, as you are aware, will make you feel better, and you'll probably feel better about yourself, too. Then you can tell him to get off his ample ass to get back in shape, and flirt with other dudes with your new hot bod to back up your argument.

PP ^^ you just made my night .

Of course this is probably what I needed anyway just a good kick in the ass to get me motivated.

Anonymous wrote:Make him paid for the trainer...oh wait he pays for everything.

Of course he pays for everything. I just stay home, eat bon bons, get fat, do laundry, clean the house, 3 meals a day for the kids, make sure he has clean and ironed clothes to take on his business trips. Do all of his clothes and shoe shopping. Drive the kids to and from activities, volunteer at the school, sit on the as President of the Board of my very active HOA. Did I mention I sit home and eat bon bons and get fat??

So go to the gym. The exercise, as you are aware, will make you feel better, and you'll probably feel better about yourself, too. Then you can tell him to get off his ample ass to get back in shape, and flirt with other dudes with your new hot bod to back up your argument.

Make him paid for the trainer...oh wait he pays for everything.

Wow, that's brutal and totally uncalled for, even if you WERE fat, which you are clearly NOT given your height and weight. OP, you're nowhere NEAR fat. I cant speak to how toned you are or aren't, but you're really at a healthy weight which is more than most people can say. His comment sucks as does the fact that he hasn't asked you about therapy. Maybe tell him tonight that what he said hurt your feelings. sorry OP, that really sucks.

Anonymous wrote:Getting in shape would probably help your mood.

If you're fat, why are you wearing a bikini?

You're a bitch and OP's husband is a dick. OP's in therapy but the point he makes is *Hey you're getting fat. Here's a trainer*? The Non-Dickish way to go about it would be to say *Hey honey, I think we need to do better about being healthy. I've booked a personal trainer, for both of us.*

And totally agree that it's messed up he hasn't asked about your therapy/how you are feeling.

I think there were probably more tactful ways for him to ask you to get in shape, but I'm more disturbed that he hasn't asked how you are doing emotionally. not breaking any stereotypes about men there I guess, but sad still.

Anonymous wrote:Getting in shape would probably help your mood.

If you're fat, why are you wearing a bikini?

I'm 5'5'' 130lbs. not fat, at least not by my BMI. But I do carry my weight around my mid section and on my upper legs


to the Poster that said my mood would probably be better if I exercised, yes you are right. I just need to get motivated and nothing is more motivating than ones DH saying they need to hit the gym!

Yikes.

I sure hope he looks amazing.

Getting in shape would probably help your mood.

If you're fat, why are you wearing a bikini?

Just venting.................. I was shocked, when DH at the dinner table told me that my bikini was a little snug at the pool yesterday. While I haven't gained that much weight I do see that my legs are not toned and my rear side has increased. I was a bit peeved at him because he too needs to "get on the exercise circuit" as he told me. He works all the time, I SAH.

I'm peeved because he knows I've been a little depressed lately and seeing a therapist, while he hasn't asked how my therapy is going, he is quick to tell me to get in shape!