I completely agree. What I hate the most is reports that have a section on my pregnancy indicating the complications I had during my pregnancy as though they are related to my son's diagnosis (which they aren't!!)...It always makes me feel like everybody thinks my son's disorder is my fault...Makes me feel like crap...I hate it.

I don't mind. Probably because I read them about myself. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. I am thankful for the support in school, which really wasn't there when I was a kid. You need to work past the "perfect" thing... Nobody is!

I so hear you.

I have literally years of report cards that have never seen the day of light.

I fear our transition into the new school which uses edline.

Can someone pass the Prozac?

And then there's the online grade reporting system in middle and high school that emails you daily with grades from tests and assignements. Edline is a relentless barrage of bad news for us. And then I think if it's hard for me to deal, how hard it must be for DD who tries fairly hard but still fails a lot of tests.

OP, I totally get it. I avoided an 11 page report on my kid for almost a year (although to not beat myself up too much I went forward with the interventions recommended in the report). I also had to make a phone call to get my child into a special program and I spent months almost calling before I finally did it. Now I can do things like this pretty easily and there's been a lot of improvement, but I was really stuck for a long time. Good luck, I think it does get better, as they say.

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Anonymous wrote:Getting ready for our first IEP meeting. It's been a while since we've gotten new reports from our various providers. No matter how great I think my kid is doing or how happy he makes me these things always make feel like shit. How dare these people say that my kid is anything less than perfect. They are like a punch in the gut and even after I've put them away I still keep running the text through my mind. I wonder if parents of typical kids react the same way with a bad report card.

So you want them to lie to you and pretend everything is okay? How does that solve anything?

You get an F in empathy.

I actually like our IEP meetings b/c the supports and services are really helping DS; like night and day. Before the IEP, we weren't sure he could stay at his mainstream public immersion language school and all our experts were recommending we move him. The reports are wonderful at this point b/c it shows how far he's come with help and supports and DS is doing great. It's a vast improvement from the reports I was getting from his preK teacher everyday about all the issues he was having in the classroom prior to the IEP.

Anonymous wrote:Getting ready for our first IEP meeting. It's been a while since we've gotten new reports from our various providers. No matter how great I think my kid is doing or how happy he makes me these things always make feel like shit. How dare these people say that my kid is anything less than perfect. They are like a punch in the gut and even after I've put them away I still keep running the text through my mind. I wonder if parents of typical kids react the same way with a bad report card.

So you want them to lie to you and pretend everything is okay? How does that solve anything?

I hate IEP meetings. At least you can cry in privacy at home reading the reports. Meetings are THE WORST.

I have another IEP meeting coming up and I dread it. Everyone sits around the table and tells me what I already know - that my kid is struggling and disruptive in class, but is smart.

I also dislike the report cards. My child gets lots of N's (needs improvement) for effort, but is making more effort than many of the kids in the class. It's just harder to hold it together, even on meds.

Judging effort is so subjective.

I hate report cards.

Can't speak for all parents, but IEP comments are actually easier to deal with than bad report cards. My SN son is doing his best under bad circumstances, but when my non SN kids get bad report cards, it means they are not performing to their potential.

I hear you, OP. It's tough.

Getting ready for our first IEP meeting. It's been a while since we've gotten new reports from our various providers. No matter how great I think my kid is doing or how happy he makes me these things always make feel like shit. How dare these people say that my kid is anything less than perfect. They are like a punch in the gut and even after I've put them away I still keep running the text through my mind. I wonder if parents of typical kids react the same way with a bad report card.