My DH grew up with a housekeeper but he's very neat. I didn't grow up with a housekeeper but DH is much neater than I am.

I could have written this! He puts things down on whatever surface is available and leaves them there unless he needs them again (tools on a coffee table, empty cups and dishes everwhere). He does sometimes make an effort. He will "clean" the kitchen while I put the kids down. If I don't finish the job, however, a bowl of vegetables will sit out on the counter overnight, a pot of pasta water will remain on the stove, etc. When he cuts the grass he leaves the clippings on the front walk and they are tracked throughout the house until I sweep the walk. He gets upset if I pick up his pile of clothes from the floor because he was intending to wear them again. Bags of mulch and soil will live in the yard for years if I don't move them to the shed.

But, he's overall a wonderful person so I live with these frustrations and focus on his good points.

Anonymous wrote:My DW is a slob. I'm hardly Mr. Clean, but compared to her I'm bald and sparkly.

I LOVED THIS!! SO FUNNY! My DH is pretty good at cleaning up. But, no one cleans like I do, so I don't judge. I am just happy that he helps as much as he knows how. It males life a little easier for me.

DH used to be neat and orderly but I soon realized he was used to having his mom clean up after him. When he was out on his own he lived in the barracks and it was like a hotel with a maid that passed through nearly every day.

I really hoped he would balance me out. I tend to be cluttered. Nope, it didn't balance out and DH has since become unhelpful and ignores the need to to do chores.

My DH is much more neat than I am. I'm glad it's that way, though, because if I had to pick up after him I would feel like he was another one of our children.

OP, I could have written your post word for word.

Actually when DH leaves for a business trip I feel like I'm on vacation and no longer the 24/7 maid.

My DW is a slob. I'm hardly Mr. Clean, but compared to her I'm bald and sparkly.

Does a bear sh** in the woods? Come on ladies, what did you expect? Did you actually think the frat house wasn't foreshadowing?

Dudes have other skills/chores - like fixing cars, taking out trash, changing air filters, mowing yards, protecting the family when you hear noises at night, etc...

Let men be men and hire some help or suck it up and please realize that most men don't complain at all about all their man chores.

My DH is SO MESSY. It's incredible. Not only is he messy, but he doesn't even know how to clean. Before I met him, he didn't know how to (1) use a vacuum, (2) use a can opener, (3) do laundry. My MIL is the nicest person ever, but I really curse the fact that she never required her kids to do any sort of help around the house.

For those who are messy themselves, have you tried to change? It's such an unattractive quality because it impacts the quality of life of your loved ones. Or do you just say "I grew up with a maid," leave it at that, and just go on with your slovenly ways? You do realize you sound like an entitled brat, right?

20:26? Are you my husband?

I grew up with an OCD mother and live in maid. When I was in hs and came home late and a little tipsy the loving maid helped me strip down, sprayed my feet with bleach or windex before I could pass into the house...
I am a disasterous house cleaner as a result

Yep, mine's like OP's. Worst of all, he bring stuff into the house (not just mail, but food, coffee cups etc) and leaves it on the hall table. Drives me bonkers, and I'm somewhat cluttery myself.

My DH had a maid growing up, and thetefore is quite messy.

My DW is a pig. Her parents never taught her to clean up after herself, so I am the maid.

God, i feel like i am constantly cleaning up after him. And when he tries to clean up, he's so proud of himself and thinks he's done such a great job, and i look around and i am thinking, 'this is really your definition of 'cleaned up?' there are plates out, crumbs all over the floor, etc....it's like he puts away one or two things, and thinks that means 'cleaned up.' I am trying to accept that this is just one of those things about him that i am going to have to learn to accept (or else i will resent him)...but i am just wondering if others have the same issue.