21:02 here. It works for us. Why can't you believe we live this way?

My husband has a job he loves, I love not having a job, we both love our kids. Does he sometimes wish he was around a bit more, sure. Do I sometimes wish he was around more, for sure! But we did know what it would be like before we got into this, and it's generally what we expected.

Sometimes I wish I had found a career that I loved as much as my husband loves his. I imagine sometimes he wishes he was home more often.

When my kids get old enough to start thinking about careers, I hope I will remember to counsel them to think about the kinds of jobs they want to have if/when they decide to raise children.

Home once a week for dinner? Home at 10 each night? Cant believe people live this way.

Anonymous wrote:Trade your soul for an absentee spouse & parent. Good luck with that.

amen... this is such a bullshit lifestyle, every time I hear about it it validates my decision to go into govt. 25 yrs. ago (retiring in 3 yrs @ 60 with well into 7 figures in the bank).

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Anonymous wrote:Home at 7. Helps put kids to bed, then works more.

Makes breakfast. Leaves house at 9.

Makes $500K. Not a million but the kids spend time with him every day. I work too. More flexible hours and much less money. It is my job to order diapers, put away toys, etc.

This would never fly at our firm.

Where are you? Gibson? K&E?

My husband s really good. He's gets back to clients quickly. It's ridiculous to make people work in the office. He's working. Why do they care where?

Anonymous wrote:Home at 7. Helps put kids to bed, then works more.

Makes breakfast. Leaves house at 9.

Makes $500K. Not a million but the kids spend time with him every day. I work too. More flexible hours and much less money. It is my job to order diapers, put away toys, etc.

This would never fly at our firm.

Anonymous wrote:When will the politicians talk about the real problem of income inequality with lawyers not ceos or wallstreet. Oh wait obama , edwards, clintons were lawyers

You're upset about income "inequality" with people who spend $100,000 on graduate school, wrk SIX days a week, 9 a.m. to 10 p.m.?

Spends mornings with the kids, leaves at 8/ 8:30. Comes home for dinner one weeknight a week, and then works another 2-4 hrs after bedtime. Otherwise, home at 10, sometimes works afterwards. Home on the weekends, but works as needed. Usually one phone call an evening to me for a half hour to catch up. Try and text and email as needed to catch up mid day.

When will the politicians talk about the real problem of income inequality with lawyers not ceos or wallstreet. Oh wait obama , edwards, clintons were lawyers

Home at 7. Helps put kids to bed, then works more.

Makes breakfast. Leaves house at 9.

Makes $500K. Not a million but the kids spend time with him every day. I work too. More flexible hours and much less money. It is my job to order diapers, put away toys, etc.

You HAD to know what you were getting yourself into, OP.

You chose money over an involved spouse. That's the bottom line.

Trade your soul for an absentee spouse & parent. Good luck with that.

Gets home at 10, rarely in time for bedtime. However, he does make an effort to have breakfast and help out with the children in the AM, otherwise, he'd only see them on the weekends. Might as well be divorced with weekend custody.

I am a Biglaw partner, and I have chosen to sacrifice career success in favor of some semblance of a home life. I wouldn't be able to handle the schedule your DH keeps now that I have kids. However, I pay a price for it professionally, and that is not easy either. My heart goes out to you, as I'm sure his schedule makes life very difficult (and lonely) for you.

And also, what kind of involvement with the kids?

My spouse gets home between 8:30 and 10 most nights. Does not help in mornings with kids but sleeps in so he can be productive at work. Helps out at least 1 day per weekend -- other one is usually spent at office. Trying to gauge if this is the norm.