Apparently not enough.

None. However, all the husbands of all my friends who are married to white men drink a couple of beers a night.

22:35- you read my mind. I was thinking the same.

1/2 - 1 bottle of wine many nights of the week. Genuine / serious question: what makes someone an alcoholic? How do you know? I think he drinks too much, too often & have told him. I rarely drink.

Anonymous wrote:DH makes his own beer and drinks at least one pint every night- frequently two (yes, every single night). We've both wondered whether he's an alcoholic - and he did start making his beer a little lower in alcohol (mostly so he could drink more of it, i think). He's slender and fit and extremely productive, a good provider, a musician (frequently filling our home with live music), a great father, husband, family member. I've rarely seen him drunk (2-3 or 4 times in 12 years). We decided if this is alcoholic, bring it on.

So what you are saying is that he's a functioning alcoholic and you are an enabler that is very good at making excuses for him. Yes? Am I correct?

A functioning alcoholic can be all the things you mentioned above and STILL be an alcoholic.

Get a clue - http://rethinkingdrinking.niaaa.nih.gov/IsYourDrinkingPatternRisky/WhatsYourPattern.asp

Anonymous wrote:And is he an alcoholic?

You first. How much does YOUR dh drink and is HE an alcoholic. GO!

If you are asking the question, you already know the answer.

And on top of it, alcoholism is not a simple issue of volume.

Anonymous wrote:A couple times a month

+1

None ever. I have a glass of wine a few times a week.

DH makes his own beer and drinks at least one pint every night- frequently two (yes, every single night). We've both wondered whether he's an alcoholic - and he did start making his beer a little lower in alcohol (mostly so he could drink more of it, i think). He's slender and fit and extremely productive, a good provider, a musician (frequently filling our home with live music), a great father, husband, family member. I've rarely seen him drunk (2-3 or 4 times in 12 years). We decided if this is alcoholic, bring it on.

My husband is a binge drinker when he drinks. So he avoids it for the most part and maybe drinks once everyday two months now. If he drank everyday night I am not sure I could handle his mood swings.

None except at functions months a part

A couple times a month

Maybe one or two glasses (of wine...or one or two beers) , a couple times a week. No, he is not an alcoholic.

And is he an alcoholic?