Did you come under any pressure from family to get married? If so, how did you respond?

Why would you be so reckless and stupid. There are certain protections for married couples that domestic couples don't have. Plus, it's a lot easier for either of you to split because it's not like you are married.

Do you have joint bank accounts and own your home jointly?

I'm not the OP but I wondered how long until the race question would come up.
*prays* please don't be black.

What is your race and ethnicity?

Do you have body piercings?

Anonymous wrote:Are you religious?

Yes, we are.

Anonymous wrote:do you ever worry that he will leave you? You would then just be another statistic.

Do you think he worries that I might leave him? I think it goes both ways. We went the legal way and have papers drawn up for the children, the house, life insurance. If he did leave me (or vice versa) my life would not change much. I also would be spared the divorce process and the extreme cost.

One thing we did want to do is have all of our "wants" legally put into writing and made known. We went to a lawyer and had this done. While he could leave me and change his mind, I could do the same to him. It's no different to me than the risk you take when you do get married. You risk your spouse leaving you.

Anonymous wrote:Why not get married?

We both grew up in family situations where multiple divorces came into play. My mother is on her 3rd marriage. His father was married 4 times, his mother 2 times. I think this stuck with him more than it did with me, but we both agreed that we'd rather put money into a house than a wedding. From there were had a child. There was never a strong desire to marry, everything felt right, and still does.

Are you religious?

Anonymous wrote:is he the father of all 4.

Yes, he is.

is he the father of all 4.

do you ever worry that he will leave you? You would then just be another statistic.

Why not get married?

Go.