So OP, I mean, is your friend totally clueless? Does she think she is fertile? I find this fascinating. She should have been feeling bad for waiting so long like 10 years ago?

*Edwards

Seawards used donor eggs

Elizabeth Edwards had kids just before and just after 50, with lots of fertility drugs...but look what happened to her.

Anonymous wrote:If she won't adopt, how does she intend to do this?

Very selfish IMO.

All reproductive/family building choices are selfish. 8)

We had twins via donor eggs when we were 46 and 50. It's possible, but note that at that age, it's very expensive. It was worth it to us, but it's a hard journey and we know that the twins will be going to college after one of us retires and just before the other one retires. But, for assorted reasons, this was the best way for us to have a family.

Be supportive by being there for her as a friend. Her options really are none of your business but if you are so curious and you are a friend, as you claim, then talk about it with her.

If she's still regular, she can use donor eggs -

If she won't adopt, how does she intend to do this?

Very selfish IMO.

Op here, I don't doubt that the fertility time has passed, but I just do not know what to say. I don't want to tell her what I think because she is serious. At the same time, she says that adopting is not something that she wants to do. She was offended it seemed that I even asked if she was going to adopt. I want to be supportive, but I feel like she will turn defensive because inside I know she probably is thinking the same thing. I also think that a part of her is defensive because she waited on having children longer than most people would have. She is just now reaching the point in her career where she does not have to work unless she so chooses. We have talked about this for years and she always wanted to get to this point before having a child but I think she thought she would get there sooner.

Double standard! There are plenty of 54-year old baby daddys. But I bet private adoption may be the only option.

You know what, it's her business and you should butt out. It's her life to live!

I knew a woman who had biological twins at 50. She was a very young 50, very energetic, and a great mother. I don't think she gave a rat's ass what anyone's thoughts were, she's the one living her life.

Are you serious? My parents are in their 50s and are grandparents. I think your friend's fertility ship has sailed.

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How can I be a supportive friend? What are her options realistically at this point?

I know she carries a lot of guilt over deciding to delay having kids, it is such a sensitive topic for her that I do not know what to say or what not to say. She has always said that her DH has always wanted kids and now she says that she is finally ready. I had mine in my 20's and 30's so I cannot directly relate. Any advice?