Going back and finishing my Bachelor's degree.

Getting Divorced.

Getting an au pair to help me.

Ditching a crappy car that was sucking me/my $$$ dry.

Anonymous wrote:If marriage isn't affecting you either for better or worse then you are doing it wrong.

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If marriage isn't affecting you either for better or worse then you are doing it wrong.

I don't think people know what "codependence" means when they use it like the PP did. Codependence is the term used to define relationships in which two people reinforce negative attributes or behavior in eachother because of mutual enabling. A couple shouldn't be labelled "codependent" unless they're enabling bad behavior in eachother.

Wait, OP, being married doesn't affect your life greatly?

Filing for divorce will one day be the best decision I ever made.

Hm. Actually, choosing to marry my DH was definitely one of the best decisions I ever made. Really. We have a wonderful partnership that has allowed both of us to grow into ourselves and achieve a lot more than I think we would have otherwise. And, we were together for 7 years before we got married (most of our 20's). The marriage bit really was a huge decision and the right one for us.

I don't know, i think it's ok that the OP was honest. She might have been just as happy before the marriage as she has been since then. She might be in the same place in her life regardless of that decision. She might have been just as happy marrying someone else as she is with her husband, or if she'd stayed single.

I'd hope that I'd think any husband I married had a positive influence on my life and was a good thing, but I would also hope that it wouldn't be the "best" decision of my life. That feels kind of codependent to me.

Anonymous wrote:I was reflecting on a friend, young SAHM, that told me get married was one of the best decisions she made.

There are a lot of good (and bad) decisions I've made, but I'm not sure that get married would be one of them. Not that it was a bad decision, I love my partner, but I just don't see it as something I needed or that affects my life greatly. I think more about financial, career, or family decisions that make more of an impact on my everyday life. Is that terribly unromantic? Anyone feel the same way?

You sound very self centered, God have mercy on your husband and your marriage. Do you have kids?

Anonymous wrote:Ah she's young and doesn't have a career. What other major decisions might she have made?

what a stupid assumption.

I had a career, a stable financial situation and everything a young woman can dream of but something was missing. no I was not unhappy but I was feeling incomplete.

Getting married was the best decision I've made. I waited a long time for that to make sure I was doing the right thing. Now the whole thing comes together and as I deliver our second child I can't imagine my life otherwise. I SAH for now and I don't see anything wrong with my decision. It impacted my life in every single aspect and I'm so glad for it.

Anyway, major decisions can definitely impact your life but the little things we do without thinking can have huge consequences too. Like the irresponsible driver who decided to drive home buzzed and kills someone, the teen who wanted a fun night and "forgot" the condoms...

You seem very shallow.

Not going to law school. Thank GOD I backed out of that decision.

Getting married-- or least partnering with my spouse (we lived together a long time before marriage)-- was definitely one of, or the, best decision I've made.

The best decision I've ever made resulted in meeting my husband.

I'm not young and I have a career and I've made tons of decisions in all aspects of life, but the best has been to meet him.

Ah she's young and doesn't have a career. What other major decisions might she have made?

I was reflecting on a friend, young SAHM, that told me get married was one of the best decisions she made.

There are a lot of good (and bad) decisions I've made, but I'm not sure that get married would be one of them. Not that it was a bad decision, I love my partner, but I just don't see it as something I needed or that affects my life greatly. I think more about financial, career, or family decisions that make more of an impact on my everyday life. Is that terribly unromantic? Anyone feel the same way?