Anonymous wrote:Sigh. I don't know, my DH is diplomatic but also straightforward. Today he said he thinks he likes it better this way. But maybe I am pressing too much.

It's a weird feeling to feel both sexually liberated and like damaged goods at the same time.

Man here. I hope thay you're not being too insecure by constantly asking him about it. That's a sure fire turn off!!! He's not gonna tell you something that you can't fix right now. I'm sure he just likes having sex with you...loose or tight it's better than nothing.

Anonymous wrote:Sigh. I don't know, my DH is diplomatic but also straightforward. Today he said he thinks he likes it better this way. But maybe I am pressing too much.

It's a weird feeling to feel both sexually liberated and like damaged goods at the same time.

I hate that you feel like damaged goods, girl! Your body was made to give you pleasure and birth babies. You are perfect like you are now. Please don't succumb to the view that you are only worthwhile if you meet some imaginary (and impossible) idea of womanly perfection. Your body changes, and so does your dhs body. It is *not your job* to be barbie. Enjoy where you are right now, open up to your dh, and keep rocking it between the sheets! I promise you that if you whisper to your husband in great, dirty detail about how amaaaazing he feels inside of you, have awesome orgasms with him, and take him to bed often ... he won't have anything to complain about.

It would have changed over time anyway wether or not you had a vaginal delivery. Stop over thinking it and enjoy the sex and intimacy with DH

Total opposite experience here. Maybe it was the stitches or the way things settled, but I am way tighter than before. Almost two years later, it can still be a little uncomfortable.

Sigh. I don't know, my DH is diplomatic but also straightforward. Today he said he thinks he likes it better this way. But maybe I am pressing too much.

It's a weird feeling to feel both sexually liberated and like damaged goods at the same time.

Man here. If DH says it feels "different" and didn't say "better" then you have your answer. Of course it's better than nothing but it's certainly not better than it was pre baby. Trust me on this one. Get your kegals on girl.

well, shit. that sucks. i wonder if my husband is being diplomatic. it's GREAT for me.

No way. Much worse. I'm just too tired to care all that much. Oh, and my kid is 2. Years old, that is.

Anonymous wrote:9 out of 10 men disagree with this subject. IM(and 8 others)O.

You mean you don't like sex after child birth because it's not as tight?

OP here.

I am about 9 months post partum. But we've had very, very little sex until recently. The first months hurt as I had scarring. But now I got rid of that and it's great.

That said my OB also gave me estrodial since I'm breastfeeding but I've only used it once.

9 out of 10 men disagree with this subject. IM(and 8 others)O.

Way better for me. Sex was painful at my vaginal opening before I gave birth. Now its perfect.

How PP r u?

seriously, it is way better for me.

DH says I found my "pussy-control" lol.

Uh... I was realy scared about it, but it's FANTASTIC. Has anyone else experienced this? I think being a little "loosened up" makes things so much more enjoyable. In the past, I enjoyed the actual sex but to be honest most of the time I also wanted it to be over with earlier.

It takes far less "time" for entry, I feel like my partner can go deeper, etc. etc. He says it feels different and I'm a little insecure about that but frankly it's still worth it.

Is this a normal experience? I had heard so many bad stories I am completely surprised that it's actually better instead of worse!