Op, it sounds more like true depression than just a funk. I would talk to your doc about antidepressants and maybe seek out a grief support group. Good luck.

Yes, my husband found out he got a job (finally, after years of looking for something in his field) and now it looks like he might not get it because of a security clearance issue. It's still up in the air but we are extremely stressed out.

OP..HUGS to you!! I can relate to the cancer stuff. I had to stop and think about whether I wrote that post. The illness of loved ones has put me in a funk, but also my in-laws are nasty and abusive people-ask their kids and daughters and son in laws-they agree, but none of them have the balls to tell these people to behave or go away. They are even nasty to eachother (bitter divorce). Just thinking about having to deal with them at all makes me ill let alone what happens when they can't take care of themselves. One of my kids has special needs-amazing child and a true blessing, but on a bad day with him and teacher complaints and meltdowns and dealing with in-laws and caring for ill parents and well...I had to go on an antidepressant and find some hobbies to cheer me up.

Anonymous wrote:Eh...I've been in a funk too. Mostly because I hate being single. Sing it sistah!

I'm in that funk b/c I'm in a sexless marriage, so you know, being single isn't the root of your problems!

I'm also in a funk b/c I made a career mistake I can't easily unwind (hate the new gig) and moved to a bigger home (which is why I can't easily unwind the career mistake) at behest of spouse, with whom I don't have sex anymore (going on 10 years).

I was trying to remember the last time i was truly happy and it's been a long time.

The OP never said she did NOT have kids, she just mentioned that she was alone, never married...

33? Old age? That is the saddest thing I've ever read.

33 but same story. Avoid FB because I'm tired of hearing about everyone's kids while I sit just kind of flailing around not really doing anything but working. Co-own a company and work hard and a lot. But stuck in a major rut. Not giving my mom grand-kids. Worrying about their health and them not being around. I am single because I am stuck in DC and don't want to be here forever. So stuck wanting to be somewhere else but cannot right now.

I read the relationship forums and much of what is written does make marriage and having kids sound very hard and sometimes sad, it's still better than being alone without kids. At the end of the day, no money or success is worth it if done alone with no one to share it with.

One thing that I remind myself, however, is that our old age means that we have a higher chance of getting into a lasting relationship because we know ourselves and what we want. Had I gotten married in my early twenties, it likely would've been divorced by now. I am a much different person.

Why are you hanging around on a site called "DC urban MOMS and DADS" ?

anyway. I vote that you get a shelter dog. This is 100 percent guaranteed to cheer you up.

OP. This is not directed at you but I always find it interesting when single, never had kids, people read this site. I would think it would make you very happy NOT to be married or have kids after reading about the woefull lives of DCUMers. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side but there's alot of dog shit and garbage in these lawns.

oh wait...IMHO

Everyone has their year to be depressed. I got over mine a couple years ago after a year of living in perpetual fear. It was horrid.

You'll feel better. Then you will move on and not be so disappointed in yourself or your life.

Eh...I've been in a funk too. Mostly because I hate being single. Sing it sistah!

OP here- I forgot to mention that perhaps the life evaluationg thing is so heavy on my heart these days because in the last 2 weeks - our family has lost one person to cancer, and had 2 people diagnosed with it. I just seem to focus on the single thing so much as I am an only child that is getting older and thankfully I still have my parents who I love very much, and cannot bear the thought of not having them in my life as we are very close, but at some point it will be just me and I can't help but envision myself all alone.

The day after Christmas I got the worst stomach flu ever and stayed in bed practically until New Years. I thought once normal life happened (i.e. holidays over, normal work schedule resumes, etc) I would feel better. The whole month of January I was so tired that I would just sleep if I wasn't working or do nothing (i.e in front of TV). I am also very teary. My family says that I am just now dealing with the fact that my beloved golden retriever of 11 years died (Thanksgiving) but because of work commitments and holidays I was SO busy I couldn't really deal with it, and now that it is the slow time, I am grieving now. I also seem to be reevaluating life as I am going to be 35 this year and am single and never married. I love my work but besides that I feel like I have nothing to show for those 35 years. Sorry for this somber post. Just felt like typing it out in an anonymous way would be someway therapeutic.