Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. What kind of example is that? If you say no and they do it anyway at least you've set an example and you've shown them what's expected of them in terms of your values. If you say yes then standards and values are out the window. It's a bad example. Teenagers need a strong parent, not a cool one.

Curious - is that standard "no sex before marriage?" What other values are out the window?

You lost me at "your teenager's lover"...

Probably not before college, but I could see giving them one room if they were home from college together.

There was an article recently about some European country where they are much more flexible and they find it actually helps families to have adult conversations about things like birth control.

Hell no.

Yeah if I wanted to be a grandparent .

No, this like parents who smoke weed with their kids and then don't understand when their kids have drug problems when they are older

Absolutely not. What kind of example is that? If you say no and they do it anyway at least you've set an example and you've shown them what's expected of them in terms of your values. If you say yes then standards and values are out the window. It's a bad example. Teenagers need a strong parent, not a cool one.

Nope- they will do what they will do, but as a parent I will still make them work at it. Can't take all the challenge out of being a teen.

teenager's lover sounds funny.

No way

Yes, assuming it was a serious and steady relationship and my teenager was of an appropriate age.

Yes, assuming a serious relationship. But that girl just using condoms and not the Pill too... Not so smart.

No and hell no!

Nope.

I can't stop thinking about this article, because it makes me feel like a hypocrite. I fooled around behind my parents' backs, starting when I was 18, but I don't want to say it's okay for my teen to have a sexual relationship.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2091807/Would-YOU-let-teenage-daughter-sleep-boyfriend-home.html