I did nothing. No thank you note. Would never call. Children were both accepted to first choice. It truly is about the child, IMHO. Step back. Breathe.

I've heard that the squeaky wheel does NOT get the grease in this case...in fact, it red flags 'high maintenance parent/family'

Do what's asked of you:
The tour
the admissions form
the playdate.
period. Oh! And thank you notes ALL the way down the line
good luck

I'm being honest when I say that I try to make as few calls as possible; the goal is not to be a pest. However, I do attend as many parent events as possible and have my DC attend the shadow day. The more face time the better. Thank you notes after the interview and the shadow day. That's all.

I love this board. Totally can't tell who is being sincere and who wants people to shoot themselves in the foot by doing the wrong thing.

I vote NO call

Squeaky wheel gets the grease!

Anonymous wrote:I'm not the OP but we were thinking about writing a letter to our first choice, since DS recently had his playdate and remarked that he wanted to attend the school.

Is an email acceptable or should we mail the letter?

Mail a letter, it speaks to effort and thought and can be placed in your child's file. Email speaks of little effort and will most likely be deleted.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, call frequently. They want to know that you, the parent, is really interested in their school. Best if you ask questions that are easily answerable by looking at their website.

Don't be so mean. Smug is not attractive.

I'm not the OP but we were thinking about writing a letter to our first choice, since DS recently had his playdate and remarked that he wanted to attend the school.

Is an email acceptable or should we mail the letter?

Yes, call frequently. They want to know that you, the parent, is really interested in their school. Best if you ask questions that are easily answerable by looking at their website.

Anonymous wrote:Should I call or show face? Will it help them remember us or would it be overkill?

In order: No and no. Yes and yes (you may be remembered but possibly as a punchline to water cooler conversation).

Think of it this way -- can you imagine the following conversation?

AD: "Hey, had a call from that great Mrs. Doe today. What a great family!"
Assistant AD: "Wow, I'd forgotten that young John Doe had applied -- but they ARE a great family!"
AD: "Let's add John to the accept list! We can never have too many great families!"

I would think calling would make them think you are pushy- no school wants to deal with pushy parents. A letter is nice though, but only if it is sincere.

If the school impressed you and it is your first choice school hands down, write a letter . Don't call, write a letter. A letter that can be( and will be, I can tell you that) put in your child's file and read at review time . Just make sure : it is well written, succinct and no errors in spelling or grammar. Big bonus if your letter head is impressive : gives away without you needing to mention that you just happen to be CEO of something or other or your last name matches the Law partner name on the letter head, etc..

I don't think anything's going to help you

Should I call or show face? Will it help them remember us or would it be overkill?