I hate it when people call me that. I honor my commitments, I'm actually a much better friend to some of my friends than they are to me (I fly across the country for them, buy them Christmas & birthday gifts even when they forget my birthday completely, listen to their problems for hours on end, help them with job searches and homework, etc. and never ask for anything in return). However, they have actually called me "flaky" because I won't return to the small town where we grew up (where they still live). They think I'm some struggling "urban woman in the city" who doesn't know when to give up and move back home already. Ironically, I'm not a careerist at all; I just want a little more out of my career than what is currently available in my tiny hometown.

Anonymous wrote:Unreliable. Scatterbrained. Prone to changing course without reason or warning. At first it seems cute and spontaneous, then you just get really annoyed.

Exactly. Well said.

IMO when I call someone flaky, I mean to say they are wishy washy and/or unreliable....
example: someone who makes plans eagerly and then drops the ball either by forgetting or no longer is excited about it and bails out.

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Anonymous wrote:For me, flaky can mean two things. The first is someone who's an outlier, who thinks for herself, marches to her own drummer, and doesn't give a crap what people think. Those to me are good qualities on the whole.

The second kind of flaky is what 16:19 said... I knew a flake whose car was an unholy mess, her hair was always in disarray, and she was perpetually late. That's the negative kind of flaky.

Of course, the first kind of flaky and the second kind often mesh, so it's def. a mixed bag.

Wrong.

Don't you just love PP? "Wrong." What kind of response is that? No elaboration or explanation. I said, "For me." That's MY opinion.

You're def not a "flake," PP. You're a pedantic butthead who I'm sure is a lot of fun at parties. Back away.

No need to call names. This is an incorrect definition of the word. Maybe you associate some qualities in your first definition with some people you know who satisfy the definition of flakey. However, it is not a correct use of the word and I guess you can use the word however you want but having an opinion about it doesn't change the actual meaning of the word.

Not the PP, but this last post is right on the money!

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Anonymous wrote:Unreliable. Scatterbrained. Prone to changing course without reason or warning. At first it seems cute and spontaneous, then you just get really annoyed.

THIS is what flaky means. Think about biscuit with flaky layers. Something you can't hold on to, it falls apart and scatters at the touch... Filmsy. A flaky person or a flake is mostly one who you can't count on for much. They don't keep appointments/commitments. They pull out of commitments at the last minute. They make promises and never deliver on them.

This is what I think of as a flake.

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Anonymous wrote:For me, flaky can mean two things. The first is someone who's an outlier, who thinks for herself, marches to her own drummer, and doesn't give a crap what people think. Those to me are good qualities on the whole.

The second kind of flaky is what 16:19 said... I knew a flake whose car was an unholy mess, her hair was always in disarray, and she was perpetually late. That's the negative kind of flaky.

Of course, the first kind of flaky and the second kind often mesh, so it's def. a mixed bag.

Wrong.

Don't you just love PP? "Wrong." What kind of response is that? No elaboration or explanation. I said, "For me." That's MY opinion.

You're def not a "flake," PP. You're a pedantic butthead who I'm sure is a lot of fun at parties. Back away.

No need to call names. This is an incorrect definition of the word. Maybe you associate some qualities in your first definition with some people you know who satisfy the definition of flakey. However, it is not a correct use of the word and I guess you can use the word however you want but having an opinion about it doesn't change the actual meaning of the word.

Why are you asking OP?

Anonymous wrote:Unreliable. Scatterbrained. Prone to changing course without reason or warning. At first it seems cute and spontaneous, then you just get really annoyed.

THIS is what flaky means. Think about biscuit with flaky layers. Something you can't hold on to, it falls apart and scatters at the touch... Filmsy. A flaky person or a flake is mostly one who you can't count on for much. They don't keep appointments/commitments. They pull out of commitments at the last minute. They make promises and never deliver on them.

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Anonymous wrote:For me, flaky can mean two things. The first is someone who's an outlier, who thinks for herself, marches to her own drummer, and doesn't give a crap what people think. Those to me are good qualities on the whole.

The second kind of flaky is what 16:19 said... I knew a flake whose car was an unholy mess, her hair was always in disarray, and she was perpetually late. That's the negative kind of flaky.

Of course, the first kind of flaky and the second kind often mesh, so it's def. a mixed bag.

Wrong.

Don't you just love PP? "Wrong." What kind of response is that? No elaboration or explanation. I said, "For me." That's MY opinion.

You're def not a "flake," PP. You're a pedantic butthead who I'm sure is a lot of fun at parties. Back away.

Anonymous wrote:For me, flaky can mean two things. The first is someone who's an outlier, who thinks for herself, marches to her own drummer, and doesn't give a crap what people think. Those to me are good qualities on the whole.

The second kind of flaky is what 16:19 said... I knew a flake whose car was an unholy mess, her hair was always in disarray, and she was perpetually late. That's the negative kind of flaky.

Of course, the first kind of flaky and the second kind often mesh, so it's def. a mixed bag.

Wrong.

For me, flaky can mean two things. The first is someone who's an outlier, who thinks for herself, marches to her own drummer, and doesn't give a crap what people think. Those to me are good qualities on the whole.

The second kind of flaky is what 16:19 said... I knew a flake whose car was an unholy mess, her hair was always in disarray, and she was perpetually late. That's the negative kind of flaky.

Of course, the first kind of flaky and the second kind often mesh, so it's def. a mixed bag.

Unreliable. Scatterbrained. Prone to changing course without reason or warning. At first it seems cute and spontaneous, then you just get really annoyed.

Forgetting your wallet

Forgetting about a commitment

Leaving something that you bought at the store by mistake

Leaving your airplane tickets at home by mistake

Yes, I've done all of the above which makes me flaky.

ding ding ding we have a winner lol

Examples?