Yes, but being 'numb' about it is a little dramatic, don't you think?

I am sorry, OP, that the surprise was ruined. It sounds lovely, and I'm sure your husband will love it, surprise or not.

I too would be disappointed. However, he will still be very happy with the birthday plans you had and will appreciate all the effort you put into it. Now he has 3 months to think about the birthday event and look forward to it.

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Anonymous wrote:This isn't about people not being to eat. We don't need to live our lives around every earthquake, fire, starving person, cancer ridden, car crash victim. Life is horrible. People die. There is disaster everywhere. Why are you bringing it into a thread where OP is simply expressing her sadness over something obviously not truly life altering.

Karma is going to get you for being cruel to OP. You really can't show the smallest bit of kindness to her just because "some people can't afford food"? Really? Should NONE of us celebrate birthdays or Christmas EVER because someone, somewhere is suffering? How asinine and judgmental of you. FOR SHAME.

What am I missing? I only see sympathetic comments (other than this rant of course).

OP, it will still be a fun trip. It helps maximize looking forward to it.

LOL, maybe Jeff deleted the mean comments. There were some mean comments but they seem to be gone, which in turn makes my rant look quite nutty! I was defending OP and responding to the meanies who were citing all the suffering in the world.

Hugs, again, OP. Hope you have fun on your trip!

Anonymous wrote:This isn't about people not being to eat. We don't need to live our lives around every earthquake, fire, starving person, cancer ridden, car crash victim. Life is horrible. People die. There is disaster everywhere. Why are you bringing it into a thread where OP is simply expressing her sadness over something obviously not truly life altering.

Karma is going to get you for being cruel to OP. You really can't show the smallest bit of kindness to her just because "some people can't afford food"? Really? Should NONE of us celebrate birthdays or Christmas EVER because someone, somewhere is suffering? How asinine and judgmental of you. FOR SHAME.

What am I missing? I only see sympathetic comments (other than this rant of course).

OP, it will still be a fun trip. It helps maximize looking forward to it.

Ok it sucks. I don't blame you one bit for being upset. But - he still get the total thrill of knowing you planned a surprise and you went through so many steps to keep it a surprise. The whole "my wife loves me enough to do this" part is not ruined.

sorry you get to miss out on the happiness of actually surprising him, but the rest of the good part isn't gone.

I feel for you OP - it is disappointing. As other PPS have said though you will still have a great time and he will love that you planned it all. It sounds like he still doesn't know all the details - you can add a few extra surprises in!

PP with the spoiled DH surprise here. I'm thinking there's one troll posting above - no way are so many people that pissed off that you wanted to surprise your husband. Even if they're not, they definitely haven't had a surprise for a loved one spoiled!

Ignore them entirely - it's perfectly normal to be disappointed!

This isn't about people not being to eat. We don't need to live our lives around every earthquake, fire, starving person, cancer ridden, car crash victim. Life is horrible. People die. There is disaster everywhere. Why are you bringing it into a thread where OP is simply expressing her sadness over something obviously not truly life altering.

Karma is going to get you for being cruel to OP. You really can't show the smallest bit of kindness to her just because "some people can't afford food"? Really? Should NONE of us celebrate birthdays or Christmas EVER because someone, somewhere is suffering? How asinine and judgmental of you. FOR SHAME.

I totally feel for you. I had a big surprise for my DH planned this past summer and something completely random came up for the same weekend. I had to spill the beans completely to make sure he didn't make other plans. I even had the plan on how I was going to tell him all worked out and...sigh... no fun for me or him (or so I thought...)


If it makes you feel any better, while my DS (obviously) wasn't surprised, he was very touched that I went through so much trouble (and he actually said that... out loud...on purpose... and this was coming from a guy who after more than a decade still blushes when he says "I love you"). He was also really excited for the weekend - it was actually kind of fun watching him try to play off looking forward to it.

I'm sorry the surprise was ruined, but I say go with it...bite the bullet, and present him with the whole plan soon - but maybe do something silly like print out a "travel folder", tie balloons to it or spill fake snow all over it and leave it all on his pillow tomorrow night.

Just because it's not a surprise doesn't mean it won't be a blast!

GL!

If he's anything like my DH - he probably still has no idea.

Even if he does, I bet 100% he will be so very happy. You did a great job

he'll still appreciate it!!...and he'll get to have fun in anticipation of what you planned. You both will still have fun.

Oh well.

OP, you're an awesome wife. Your husband will be thrilled with his gift either way. Think about how you'll tell this story in the future and laugh about it. It will be part of the charm.

So sorry, OP. Hugs to you for your hard work. Your DH is going to love the gift & trip and all the thought you put into this. It sounds like so much fun! Enjoy and don't be so sad.

I jumped through hoops to plan a surprise ski trip for my husband and I for his 40th birthday in March. Used my mother's credit card to charge deposits since he pays the bills, used frequent flyer miles, and amex points to pay for other things.....

I had all the confirmations, membership rewards vouchers in hand.....childcare arranged....even touched base with his office to make sure they wouldn't' schedule anything that week.

Today he got home before me - rarely, very rarely happens - and he got the mail. The hotel in CO sent a confirmation letter (I did note expect it and they even know it was a surprise), he saw it, opened it and claims he didn't read it.

I am crushed. I just had the final details set this week so I was starting to plan the "how" I was going to tell him - at dinner on his birthday, the night before, maybe even at Christmas. Now I don't get that chance....UGH......I still can't believe this happened.

Just had to vent. Thank you.