Hi,
We're in a similar situation trying to decide which plan to choose knowing that we'll be trying IVF next year. There are very few posts that I can find about Kaiser so we went with MDIPA for a couple reasons:
1. With MDIPA, we still get to choose our doctors. With Kaiser, you have to switch to their doctors. This allows some sense of normalness being able to keep our general doctors and ob, etc.
2. MDIPA premiums are really expensive, but most of the posts I've read recommend them. As for the cost, well--isn't this why we work and save money? If you're not willing to spend some money now, what happens for the 18 years you have to support a child?
3. Aetna has one little word in the IVF section--the word AND. We have unexplained infertility, so I'm worried Aetna would deny our claim for IVF.