I would post on either older kids forum, or perhaps even special needs forum with this question. Good luck.

I have a 15 year old niece that is acting out. She was adopted at 6 from a third world country. Her IQ is quite low, which makes it difficult when she is perfectly normal in appearance, but not capable of understanding consequences. She (and family) have had counselling for years for Reactive Attachment Disorder. She has been a very well treated (best of everything), but can't keep friends because she suffocates them within 24 hours with 'I love yous, email me, etc.' When they reject her she has started to cut herself, then took overdose of aspirin (ambulance to ICU to treatment) and then last weekend smoked pot first time, but it had some other drug in it, so another ambulance trip. She is not also being treated for clinical depression. My other sister and I sent cards to niece after her first attempt to let her know she was family and we loved her. My mom did not. She is a retired nurse and hasn't ever felt giving attention to kids who want to kill themselves is a good idea. Anyway, my mom is not sure how to proceed with this situation because niece/granddaughter is really mad at Grandma when grandma sent bday card to KS, but no card for her. She threatened suicide, but mostly because KS had plans to attend a brininess Xmas party and it didn't involve niece. When niece is not the center of attention lately, she has made drastic attempts to make sure parents are doting on her verses a night out. What she has been doing to get them to come home is REALLY bad. Regardless, Grandma and me have trying to find some helpful websites for extended families to know how to deal with kids like that. Any advice where to look for family tips on how to deal with these situations?