I agree with the article. My parents put us kids first, they were unhappy and guess what, we knew it. It is an unfair and heavy burden to put on your children. If you are not willing or able to love and honor your spouse the children often suffer.

I'd die for DW or for kids. That's easy. What's hard is regular date nights when kids complain, traveling for work when DW and kids both complain (when work is for them in the first place). But I didn't think parenting (or being married) was going to be easy, and hard work pays off. Also a few other cliches. You get the drift.

Do I put my husband over my child 100% of the time? No. Do I do it sometimes? Yes. That's a relationship you have to nurture as well, or you fall into the dreaded roommate/co-parent type of marriage so many people wither away in.

The kids leave you one day, usually after about 18 years. You're (theoretically) going to be with your partner for life. Too many people think you can ignore that person for 18 years and expect to be a part of a happy marriage once the kids leave. I don't love my husband more than my daughter, but I also don't automatically love him much less. They fulfill very different roles in my life. I can't imagine life without either one of them.

Anonymous wrote:I'll put it this way. When parents put their children ahead of the marriage, the results are often bad.

THIS. I've been married 25 years and have 5 children. Two of our kids are grown and out of the house. I love my kids dearly, and they know that. But my husband comes first. I am a wife first and a mother second.

Haven't read the article, but I'd die for my kids, but not my DH. I can't imagine feeling the other way around.

Chooble colgiimfagle. Nerble gobinweld.

False dichotomy.

Thanks for sharing .. I'd have to agree 110%.

Op here. I copied and pasted the title from the article and added the first "is" to make it a question without proofing. I assumed readers would be more inclined to open and respond to a question rather than simply read a statement. But I'm so happy your Sunday snark can now be enjoyed by all. Happy thanksgiving!

I'll put it this way. When parents put their children ahead of the marriage, the results are often bad.

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Anonymous wrote:Is writing a grammatical topic is the key to a good thread?

It was obviously a typo for the OP. Do you get off on pointing out spelling and grammar mistakes on the interwebz?

Come on 2017 was funny.

Really interesting article. I actually think it is true -- it's one more aspect of modeling good behavior that I think we often forget about.

Anonymous wrote:Is writing a grammatical topic is the key to a good thread?

It was obviously a typo for the OP. Do you get off on pointing out spelling and grammar mistakes on the interwebz?

Is writing a grammatical topic is the key to a good thread?

I thought this article made some interesting points... would love to see what others say

http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/loving-husband-more-kids-key-good-life-181900983.html