Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes and no. Watching Sandusky on video clips, I can see red flags in his affect. So I'm fairly confident I'd be able to recognize and deal with someone like him, as I've done with other people with similar affects. On the other hand, it worries me that so many seem to have missed these visible red flags.

What red flags to you see in his affect?

I haven't watched videos of him -- can't bring myself to -- but I think I would spot someone creepy. I hope so.

I am curious about this too. I just watched a video of him on Youtube and even though I was looking for clues, I didn't see any red flags. Am I dense? I really want to know as I find it disturbing that I'm not seeing it!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a victim of child sex abuse myself, no.

As a parent, just reminds me to keep my eyes wide open.

what happened

Not the PP. But that is none of your business and it is extremely rude and unthoughtful to ask that.

Anonymous wrote:Yes and no. Watching Sandusky on video clips, I can see red flags in his affect. So I'm fairly confident I'd be able to recognize and deal with someone like him, as I've done with other people with similar affects. On the other hand, it worries me that so many seem to have missed these visible red flags.

What red flags to you see in his affect?

I haven't watched videos of him -- can't bring myself to -- but I think I would spot someone creepy. I hope so.

someone should report 10:43. What sort of sicko wants to know the details of someone else being sexually abused.

Yes and no. Watching Sandusky on video clips, I can see red flags in his affect. So I'm fairly confident I'd be able to recognize and deal with someone like him, as I've done with other people with similar affects. On the other hand, it worries me that so many seem to have missed these visible red flags.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a victim of child sex abuse myself, no.

As a parent, just reminds me to keep my eyes wide open.

what happened

What do you mean??? You want me to describe how I was abused?

Or my personal favorite "He didn't MEAN to hurt them."

That's the power of denial. She doesn't believe he harmed her child.

Even when they accept that it happened, they minimize the harm caused. "It was just touching, it's not like he raped you." "He's a boy, he'll get over it." "He probably doesn't even remember."

Anonymous wrote:10:34 is right -- that's what should make you scared.

Many child sex abuse victims (myself included -- 8 years by my stepfather) LIVE with their abuser. While my mother was watching her favorite TV show, I was being abused in the next room.

And she's still married to him. Denial is a powerful thing.

This happens so often, and I really really don't get it. How a mother could stay with someone who harmed her child, I do not understand.

Yes. In particular, reading the grand jury report freaked me out. The man is so cunning and sly. He really messed with those kids' heads. I suppose all molesters do that, but reading the details really opened my eyes. I have a toddler and am trying to think through what conversations I need to have with her and when to start.

10:34 is right -- that's what should make you scared.

Many child sex abuse victims (myself included -- 8 years by my stepfather) LIVE with their abuser. While my mother was watching her favorite TV show, I was being abused in the next room.

And she's still married to him. Denial is a powerful thing.

Anonymous wrote:As a victim of child sex abuse myself, no.

As a parent, just reminds me to keep my eyes wide open.

what happened

No.

Most cases of child sexual abuse occurs among family members. And all of the signs were there with Sandusky. The gifts, the outings, the sleepovers, etc. People were either blind or just not that aware of the warning signs.

As a victim of child sex abuse myself, no.

As a parent, just reminds me to keep my eyes wide open.

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