Stop whining.

Have dinner with Grandma and then make some plans of your own for Thanksgiving Day.

This.

Traveling the weekend before Thanksgiving is SO much better than traveling for actual Thanksgiving!

Plus, everyone loves more helpings of stuffing and mashed potatoes. And perspective.

Unless having Thanksgiving four days early means you'd have to take Monday off to be there, I don't see a problem. Yes, it's different, but you can still do Thanksgiving dinner at your house on the actual day. In the years when Thanksgiving isn't at our house, we always have what we call Secret Thanksgiving - we make our own turkey and all that jazz on Friday and enjoy it just as much as we would if it were actual Thanksgiving.

Having turkey a few days early with grandma doesn't mean you can't celebrate on the day of actual thanksgiving too.

You are insane.

people shouldn't name call in these posts. i do agree with overriding sentiment to celebrate with grandma a few days early. Canadians celebrate Thanksgiving in October. on the day of you don't have to cook a whole turkey again, consider buying just turkey legs or breast

Stop whining.

Have dinner with Grandma and then make some plans of your own for Thanksgiving Day. No need to be sad. You and your wife and kids can have a Thanksgiving dinner yourselves - you can even invite others - family or friends. Take charge instead of moping.

Anonymous wrote:Wow!! I don't want to be one of THOSE people, but I can't help it. Be thankful your Grandma (or is she your mom?) is around to celebrate early with you. Many of us would trade places with you in a second. If she didn't have something like this planned you would be here whining because she never does anything for you.

OP here. What is wrong with me wanting to celebrate on Thanksgiving Day. I am happy to spend time with family on Thanksgiving Day. We used to spend every thanksgiving day togehher which I was grateful for and then one year about 6 years ago grandma stops hosting Thanksgiving. She is in good health and loves to cook so why not spend the day with family. She has chosen to no longer want to spend the day with us which is offensive to me. I feel sad when other people ask me my Thanksgiving plans and I have nothing to say.

Wow!! I don't want to be one of THOSE people, but I can't help it. Be thankful your Grandma (or is she your mom?) is around to celebrate early with you. Many of us would trade places with you in a second. If she didn't have something like this planned you would be here whining because she never does anything for you.

Grandma wants to spend time with you, AND she wants to cook you a big meal? Dang, I'd say "THANK YOU!" and show up with my napkin tucked under my chin.

And then do it again on Thanksgiving. No big deal.

You're pretty lucky, actually! Have fun!

What an annoying, ungrateful, entitled little brat you sound like! I can only hope none of my grandchildren would turn out like you.

What the hell is wrong with you? Just go eat a dinner with your Grandma a few days early. Is that so hard to do? Celebrate Thanksgiving Day itself however the heck you like.

Is this for real??? Are you, DH, making up all this drama????

It's family time and a chance to be thankful. Does it really matter what day is on the calendar?

What's the big deal about going? In my family we often celebrate holidays at some point near the day rather than on the actual day so that we can all make it.

Do you have to travel? If not, then suck it up and appease the woman this year.

she wants us to have a Thanksgiving dinner 4 days prior to the holiday. She will be away. She used to host Thanksgiving yearly and the 5 years ago stopped. THis year she and her significant other will be away for the weekend. Granted she does not even work so it is not like her schedule is busy. My feeling is it would great for the kids to spend Thanksgiving with their family members but grandma is asking what size turkey she should buy. I am of the feeling that if grandma wants to celebrate thanksgiving then do it on the holiday. SO what do I do? Do I just give in and bring kids and wife or do I stand firm and say we would love to celebrate Thanksgiving Day with you. Grandma has a keen way of making me feel guilty lol by saying something like "I thought it would be nice if we all got together for the holiday." Then she slides in that she will be away Thanksgiving day and I tell her that we are celebrating the holiday on Thanksgiving Day so we cannot make it. So she says,"if you change your mind let her know." And I say ok if you change your mind about Thanksgiving Day let me know.

Do I need to eat turkey and everything else 4 days prior to the holiday and then on the holiday again so it is convenient for grannys schedule.