this is hard but continue to work with her and do what you are doing to help. Early intervention pays off, and she will adjust but it will take time. I agree with previous posters, try to find time for yourself and a support group.

I feel for you. You know what she can do, and it will take time for her to adjust. I know the worry you have, it is so hard. I can't imagine dealing with all that you do by yourself. I hope you can find a support group. She is never going to be who you want her to be. She is going to be herself. And you will all be ok.

As a single mom (I was one as well), you really need a support group of a few other parents who also have children on the spectrum. Please ask your school for some recommendations and there are other groups in the area as well. There's POAC in Northern Virginia but I know there must be one in Montgomery County.

www.poac-nova.org

Op here...they are supplying the aide, and I believe it will help but I just wish she could be the same across the board. I find myself crying a lot and constantly worrying about her. Sometimes I see her as growing out of a lot of this other days I'm not so sure. Its hard and yes I see a therapist once a week but it still hurts

I know how overwhelming this is and how this may seem like a set back but, from your post, it doesn't really sound that bad. Even NT kids find a new school unsettling and take a while to warm up to it - especially when it's K and when it's large group! Two of my kids have ADHD and some sensory processing challenges and they still have challenges in the large settings. Until they're comfortable in their surroundings, they're also a lot less verbal (which common across all populations). As far as the aide goes, are they expecting you to pay for it or will they provide it. If they provide it, I would absolutely take them up on it. Hang in there!

Hang in there. If she transferred a month ago, it just might be taking her longer to adjust and become comfortable in her new school. If it really seems like the right place for her, just continue to encourage and support her as she transitions. And ask the school for any suggestions or help on ways to get her to do this.

My daughter has been getting intEnsive early intervention since age 2. She is now 5 and recently transferred to a much better school one month ago. During her 30day review meeting, it wAs discovered that she communicates in one to two words. At home and in private therapy she speaks in full sentences, she asks questions, and has made big improvements. In the classRoom she is so easily distracted to the point that they are requesting she get an aide to help her stay on task. I am a single mom. She has therapy after school 5 days a week. I was so proud of her because she appeared to be doing great, but she is different in a large setting than with me or even her other therapist. My biggest fear is regression, and I haven't slept well since getting feedback from her school.
I have done all that I can do to help her an it seems like she...she just isn't becoming who I wanted her to be and it hurts because I love her and want her to thrive but am now feeling at the end of my rope.