Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I purposely have not friended him on fb, just so he could feel free to be more relaxed to chat with friends as kids that age do (not all of it meant for the parent set, I don't think). I really shouldn't have said "homework." I haven't seen his homework or asked about it since the 3rd grade, really. And to my knowledge he's done all his homework since that time. (And till HS graduation I spoke to a total of 3 teachers of his on the phone -- one was a K teacher and that's because we didn't have email then.) I mentioned the lab because it is one thing that our college experiences have in common. In my day, lab reports were horrendously detailed and time consuming (well we were using correct-a-type cartridges). So that was really just meant as a topic of common ground so to speak. In the same way he can say "I like bio, hate chem." And I can say "that's funny I loved chem." Just little stuff. (I do know that Bio is considered a weeding out course at his college. So in that sense I'm trying to get a gauge on how Bio is going.)
DH and I are prepared to let DS make his own mistakes. Maybe I'm just missing him more than I was prepared to.
12:46 again. Okay, sorry I misinterpreted what you wrote. I would have been delighted if I didn't have to see my kid's homework since 3rd grade. She finally got it together in high school but only after years of us monitoring it. I'm in awe of you OP! Yeah, sounds like you just miss your kid. I get that!
Anonymous wrote:Why would you check up on assignments? They are adults. Would you call them and check up on their work assignments?
Anonymous wrote:I purposely have not friended him on fb, just so he could feel free to be more relaxed to chat with friends as kids that age do (not all of it meant for the parent set, I don't think). I really shouldn't have said "homework." I haven't seen his homework or asked about it since the 3rd grade, really. And to my knowledge he's done all his homework since that time. (And till HS graduation I spoke to a total of 3 teachers of his on the phone -- one was a K teacher and that's because we didn't have email then.) I mentioned the lab because it is one thing that our college experiences have in common. In my day, lab reports were horrendously detailed and time consuming (well we were using correct-a-type cartridges). So that was really just meant as a topic of common ground so to speak. In the same way he can say "I like bio, hate chem." And I can say "that's funny I loved chem." Just little stuff. (I do know that Bio is considered a weeding out course at his college. So in that sense I'm trying to get a gauge on how Bio is going.)
DH and I are prepared to let DS make his own mistakes. Maybe I'm just missing him more than I was prepared to.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm really missing our first who started college 2 weeks ago. I'm resisting the urge to call or text but wonder what amount of calling/texting is typical? And do you get involved at all regarding specific assignments (like, did you get that lab report done?) or are homework questions totally off limits? I know answers vary, but looking for some sage advice.
We text throughout the week...maybe 2-3 times a day (mostly initiated by her)...and Skype on Sundays. Aside from general questions like "How do you like the classes and/or professors?" or "How is it going with the workload?"....we do not ask questions about specific assignments.
Well that makes me feel a little better (and a little worse). I send a text a day or every other day. But DS is not a great communicator. When he was in HS he'd really open up only at odd times (and certainly times of his choosing). So the texting is very stiff. I guess my trouble is that I can't get a good read on him. I completely understand the he needs space, has to find out things for himself, etc., etc. but I also haven't reached a comfort level yet that he's settling in as he should be.
And btw, I went to college, too. Knowing how parents/college kids communicated back then really has little bearing on today's communication.
I'm really missing our first who started college 2 weeks ago. I'm resisting the urge to call or text but wonder what amount of calling/texting is typical? And do you get involved at all regarding specific assignments (like, did you get that lab report done?) or are homework questions totally off limits? I know answers vary, but looking for some sage advice.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm really missing our first who started college 2 weeks ago. I'm resisting the urge to call or text but wonder what amount of calling/texting is typical? And do you get involved at all regarding specific assignments (like, did you get that lab report done?) or are homework questions totally off limits? I know answers vary, but looking for some sage advice.
We text throughout the week...maybe 2-3 times a day (mostly initiated by her)...and Skype on Sundays. Aside from general questions like "How do you like the classes and/or professors?" or "How is it going with the workload?"....we do not ask questions about specific assignments.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm really missing our first who started college 2 weeks ago. I'm resisting the urge to call or text but wonder what amount of calling/texting is typical? And do you get involved at all regarding specific assignments (like, did you get that lab report done?) or are homework questions totally off limits? I know answers vary, but looking for some sage advice.
Anonymous wrote:Why would you check up on assignments? They are adults. Would you call them and check up on their work assignments?
Anonymous wrote:I'm really missing our first who started college 2 weeks ago. I'm resisting the urge to call or text but wonder what amount of calling/texting is typical? And do you get involved at all regarding specific assignments (like, did you get that lab report done?) or are homework questions totally off limits? I know answers vary, but looking for some sage advice.