I heard the heartbeat at 8 weeks, but fetus was measuring a week behind, so they had me come in a week later and there was no more heartbeat. I had a D&C the following day and was pregnant again four months later (which is how long it took for my cycles to get back to normal).

But STOP reading this thread OP, chances are you're going to have a healthy pregnancy and baby and you'll be just fine.

Congratulations and wishing you all the best!

Anonymous wrote:What happened to other people plays no bearing on what will happen to you. The odds are greatly in your favor, so try to rest easy. If the worse does happen you will survive it.

This. This is what helped me after first pregnancy ended in missed m/c. Now 30 wks with second preg, and optimistic. Best of luck to you, OP!

This is just anecdotal, but from what I've read, most occur around 6.5 weeks. At least the baby stops developing then. Many people wouldn't find out until 8-9 weeks since that's when the first appointment usually is.

I worry about this all the time, too - I'm about 9 1/2 weeks, but IVF patient and worry ALL the time about the emotional/physical/financial stress to get where we are and whether it will actually work out.

The WORST is waiting for my next appointment - still over 3 weeks away. I HATE it. We'll be 12 1/2 weeks at the next one, but its still no comfort to me (my DH wants to tell our relatives that following weekend, 13 weeks).

I try to say we've had great ultrasounds so far and I have nothing to worry about - no cramping, no bleeding, I still feel like crap/exhausted. But in the end, that really doesn't mean anything. You just have to know you aren't alone with these feelings, and odds are in your favor at this point (if it's any consolation!).

Good luck - you can do it.

What happened to other people plays no bearing on what will happen to you. The odds are greatly in your favor, so try to rest easy. If the worse does happen you will survive it.

we had a vanishing twin at 9 wks, we had seen a heartbeat but the US showed that the baby was several weeks smaller than he should have been, so we knew he wasn't going to make it (doesn't make it easier, but at least there was something on the US that was abnormal). Im 8wks now with #2 and going for the US this afternoon. The first tri is so nervewracking but if your sono's are good, hopefully everything will be OK. Good luck OP and try to relax, I know it's hard. Im right there with you!

I had an unexpected m/c (silent m/c) at 12 weeks. I approximate the death at about 11 weeks. We had no signs of trouble, saw hb, everything at both 6 and 10 weeks - BUT all the doctors seemed very surprised, making me feel as if it were relatively rare. Good luck, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

i m/c at 8-9 weeks it was so heart breaking im now 17 n trying for another baby :'( i didnt get to hear my babies heartbeat . good luck to all other people on this forum and i hope you all have a healthy baby in the future xxxxx all my love <3

if it helps when I m/c'ed at 6.5 weeks (no hb at 9 weeks) I had never seen a hb, just appropriately rising hcg. I know people DO m/c after seeing a hb but it IS fairly uncommon. Not at all impossible, but uncommon.

I just had a D&C at almost 10 weeks. Saw a heartbeat at almost 8 weeks. sorry, I guess you never know.

I had a m/c at 10 weeks, but the ultrasound at 8 weeks showed no sac. Good luck, OP. I know it's had not to worry.

I had a m/c at 9 weeks due to age related DS. Typically, when you have m/c after 8-9 weeks, doctors perform an analysis on the chromosomes of the miscarried fetus, specifically if you have a D & C where they can collect fetal tissue. As heartbreaking as it is, I went on to have a perfectly healthy son at the age of 43.

Anonymous wrote:Don't know about the 8-9 week stats, but I have read that once you get to 10 weeks (the beggining of the fetal stage), the miscarriage rate drops to around 3%. If you've already heard a heartbeat that also reduces the risk of miscarriage. I have never had a miscarriage but have been really anxious thus far and it feels like the first trimester is just crawling by. Hang in there!

OP here. Thank you. I hate the first trimester. We were totally nervous with our DS too. Good luck with your's too.

Don't know about the 8-9 week stats, but I have read that once you get to 10 weeks (the beggining of the fetal stage), the miscarriage rate drops to around 3%. If you've already heard a heartbeat that also reduces the risk of miscarriage. I have never had a miscarriage but have been really anxious thus far and it feels like the first trimester is just crawling by. Hang in there!

I'm just at 8 weeks and have had good ultrasounds so far, but I am really nervous. We've had some miscarriages at this point in the past. We were told by a doctor once that most genetic abnormalities show up at 8-9 weeks. Has anyone else ever heard this or experienced the same problems around the 8-9 week mark? I'm going to be a nervous wreck over the next two weeks.