as it should be

The law is free from emotion

Legal is legal. What the will says is all that matters. Or what is written into law. That's all that matters.

Yes this is what happens when things aren't equal.

Anonymous wrote:Whoever is fighting over money has no way of making their own because of capacity.
Have mercy.

I think money (or lack of) is only part of the problem. I have seen also wealthy families fighting over inheritance. These circumstances amplify dysfunctional family dynamics (black sheep, golden child etc)

Whoever is fighting over money has no way of making their own because of capacity.
Have mercy.

Anonymous wrote:Can't you just say leave me out, take my share and ignore it all?

It is likely what I am going to do. Now cousins (I didn’t see them for 20 years!!) want to get in touch with me to involve me in the fight.. lol.. no thank you!

Can't you just say leave me out, take my share and ignore it all?

My grandmother was in charge of distributing her mom’s “estate” ( they were very poor immigrants) to her 11 siblings. They fought to the point of estrangement over a few hundred dollars.

I wish this story wasn’t so common.

I am about to get on a call with my cousins about the same thing. It's been ongoing for more than 2 years now. I am so tired of it and it is one person of 14 being ridiculous.

My brother and I made a pact that we would never fight over money. Four grandparents and one parent down, and so far so good.

Tale as old as time. My mother’s cousin’s widow (fourth wife) does not speak to me because she believes my mother assisted cousin’s sister in law in removing priceless crystal from the home of cousin’s deceased mother. That woman did not have any priceless crystal but if my mother helped pack up some cut glass and that act freed me from having to interact with the She-Devil widow, then bless my mother!

Anonymous wrote:Money does strange things to people. The proceeds from my grandfather's house was eventually divided amongst 13 people after more than 20 years of bickering, and siblings refusing to speak to each other. I think everyone ended up with just a few thousand dollars each in the end.

My grandmother's brother somehow swindled the house away from the rest of the 6 siblings. It wasn't worth much but they didn't speak until her was on his deathbed and she went to see him in the hospital. How sad.

Money does strange things to people. The proceeds from my grandfather's house was eventually divided amongst 13 people after more than 20 years of bickering, and siblings refusing to speak to each other. I think everyone ended up with just a few thousand dollars each in the end.

I come from a modest family so we are not talking about millions. After all my grandparents passed away both side of the family are fighting for the inheritance. Grandparents lived overseas and had some properties that in DC would probably not be worth enough to buy a garage. But here we are..