Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the grooms family was classy they would offer to split. Now at least you know what you're dealing with

Agreed. I think both should split it.

I plan on giving my DDs and DS the same amount of money and they can either buy a house or have a wedding with it. I took the money from my parents and bought a house at 22, got roommates who paid my entire mortgage.

If the parents' splitting, who's going to pay for the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon?

Anonymous wrote:If the grooms family was classy they would offer to split. Now at least you know what you're dealing with

Agreed. I think both should split it.

I plan on giving my DDs and DS the same amount of money and they can either buy a house or have a wedding with it. I took the money from my parents and bought a house at 22, got roommates who paid my entire mortgage.

I think most couples nowadays pay for the own weddings. Since the persons getting married are adults, with jobs.

Brides paying for weddings was from the days when women did not work and the husband was responsible for all the financial load after the wedding.

Explain to me why we're spending $$$$ on weddings in the first place. One of the most idiotic customs I've ever experienced.

My family's tradition is that the groom(s) and bride(s) pay for their own weddings. Paying for weddings is something parents did for their kids when they married straight out of high school.

OP, can you explain why you think you must continue this custom?

Most things even out

No, "we" don't.

Most don’t.

If the wife’s family wants to they pay for the wedding, they do.

If they can’t or won’t the couple does.

Most parents don’t have the money for wedding, you’re insane if you think the majority of girl parents pay for the whole wedding.

Privileged people keep following this tradition, not normal people.

Spoken like a family with only girls

If the grooms family was classy they would offer to split. Now at least you know what you're dealing with

Anonymous wrote:You’re a cheap ass mofo

+1 Why have any customs then? This is the way we do it.

You don't have to

...of the bride's parents paying for the wedding??? It's 2026.

I feel like we're going backwards.