Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 15:05     Subject: Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew
I would give them all CDs or 529 contributions.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 14:51     Subject: Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew
Anonymous wrote:
You're a bad speller and have bad judgment, OP.

Give him a smaller sum that you're comfortable seeing pissed away. You cannot control the money or attach strings to it. He doesn't actually "need" a large sum from you (even though you might like playing Lady Bountiful).



+1. I have no idea what any of my nephews and nieces have spent my cash gifts on and I don't care. It's given to celebrate a milestone.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 14:46     Subject: Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew
Anonymous wrote:Yea OP you're overthinking it. Just give the damned gift and be done with it.


+1. Just be equal. Give all nephews and nieces the same amount.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 14:42     Subject: Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband and I want to give our nephew a fairly generous sum for his high school graduation to help him as he heads to college next year. Problem is that he's a bit flighty and not super responsible. Would it be worth it to come up with a way to disperse it over time, or am I overthinking this?


LOL I have that nephew too. You are nice, I am just giving him a nice card and $100.


Do we all have the same nephew? I gave a card and $100 as well.


There's one in every family!


There's one OP in every family, certainly, trying to micromanage her gifts.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 14:32     Subject: Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband and I want to give our nephew a fairly generous sum for his high school graduation to help him as he heads to college next year. Problem is that he's a bit flighty and not super responsible. Would it be worth it to come up with a way to disperse it over time, or am I overthinking this?


LOL I have that nephew too. You are nice, I am just giving him a nice card and $100.


Do we all have the same nephew? I gave a card and $100 as well.


There's one in every family!
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 14:32     Subject: Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew
Good god.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 14:25     Subject: Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew
$100 in a card and a 4-year CD.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 14:22     Subject: Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew

You're a bad speller and have bad judgment, OP.

Give him a smaller sum that you're comfortable seeing pissed away. You cannot control the money or attach strings to it. He doesn't actually "need" a large sum from you (even though you might like playing Lady Bountiful).

Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 14:21     Subject: Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew
Irresponsible?
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 14:18     Subject: Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew
Yea OP you're overthinking it. Just give the damned gift and be done with it.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 14:07     Subject: Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband and I want to give our nephew a fairly generous sum for his high school graduation to help him as he heads to college next year. Problem is that he's a bit flighty and not super responsible. Would it be worth it to come up with a way to disperse it over time, or am I overthinking this?


LOL I have that nephew too. You are nice, I am just giving him a nice card and $100.


Do we all have the same nephew? I gave a card and $100 as well.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 14:01     Subject: Re:Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew
Anonymous wrote:You’re overthinking it. A gift is just that. Find an amount you’re comfortable giving him without worrying about how he chooses to spend it.


This, you can reconsider the big gift in 4 years.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 13:59     Subject: Re:Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew
You’re overthinking it. A gift is just that. Find an amount you’re comfortable giving him without worrying about how he chooses to spend it.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 13:57     Subject: Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew
Anonymous wrote:My husband and I want to give our nephew a fairly generous sum for his high school graduation to help him as he heads to college next year. Problem is that he's a bit flighty and not super responsible. Would it be worth it to come up with a way to disperse it over time, or am I overthinking this?


LOL I have that nephew too. You are nice, I am just giving him a nice card and $100.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 13:54     Subject: Graduation gift for unresponsible nephew
My husband and I want to give our nephew a fairly generous sum for his high school graduation to help him as he heads to college next year. Problem is that he's a bit flighty and not super responsible. Would it be worth it to come up with a way to disperse it over time, or am I overthinking this?