Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is this your problem?

What is wrong with you? Your child needs some help you help them. The parent has years of life experience and would have some good ideas. It’s tough because most summer jobs are filled but she needs to keep trying.

+1. Us culture of individualism and refusing to help kids when they turn 18 is so sad. They turned 18 and already know everything?? They’re the same they were at 17. Failure to launch kids are common do this mentality. All over the world, kids listen to parent forever, and parents are always willing to let kids live at home and financially support kids too.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is this your problem?

What is wrong with you? Your child needs some help you help them. The parent has years of life experience and would have some good ideas. It’s tough because most summer jobs are filled but she needs to keep trying.

With an 18 yr old I help by encouraging them to help themselves, problem-solve, brainstorm. I refuse to do the work for them. That's how you raise anxious kids incapable of doing anything for themselves.

+1 I don’t plan my kids’ summers

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is this your problem?

What is wrong with you? Your child needs some help you help them. The parent has years of life experience and would have some good ideas. It’s tough because most summer jobs are filled but she needs to keep trying.

With an 18 yr old I help by encouraging them to help themselves, problem-solve, brainstorm. I refuse to do the work for them. That's how you raise anxious kids incapable of doing anything for themselves.

Anonymous wrote:How is this your problem?

What is wrong with you? Your child needs some help you help them. The parent has years of life experience and would have some good ideas. It’s tough because most summer jobs are filled but she needs to keep trying.

Is she asking you for ideas? If she’s not, leave her alone. If she is, tell her to sign up for Instacart and Rover.

What did she do last summer?

Babysitting, pet sitting, door dash…no need to sit around!

stop babying your adult daughter

Make a "bucket list" for the area and take time to explore. Start a new book and tv series with lots of seasons. Pick up a hobby and cook or make something.

The time to find a job was quite a while ago. Like 2 years ago.

Tell her to come up with a plan to fill her time between taking summer classes, volunteering, and working. Let her figure this out. Give her until the end of the week to come up with a plan.

There are a million places she can volunteer.

She needs to find the opportunities not you.

How is this your problem?

Volunteering?

Both of DD’s good friends are spending the summer in Europe with family. I’m looking for ideas of how she can fill her time and be productive.
She’s headed to college this fall but her school is on quarters and they don’t start until mid September.
I work full time and can’t take too many days off.
She’s looking for a job, but progress has been slow.