I am 50M but also feel like this and luckily my wife agrees.We will be doing this soon and hope to focus on ourselves later in our lives.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know if it’s peri or just life but I’m 46 with an 18 and 15 year old and feel the same. Very glad I did not have that much later on 3rd kid we debated! He/she would be in about 3rd or 4th grade right now!!

Did you have a shotgun wedding?

Yes! 49 and I'm finding it harder and harder to play the job game and go through the motions. It really is true that when you hit late peri a veil is lifted and you start to see things so differently. Like, I have been taking care of every human being I encounter for 40 years and I'm exhausted and need to stop. I only have 15 maybe 20 good years left. I want to LIVE them!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are at the bottom of the y curve of happiness. You are in a mid-life slump - things will get better after 50.

She is 49, 50 is literally around the corner. You think a year or 2 will make a diff? Besides, the type of problems OP is referring to are not fixed by aging, it's life changes she wants.

DP. My lowest was at 47 and I totally changed my life in 2 years. It can be done.

OP here -I am powering through! i know it sucks but I am just putting on my shit goggles and diving in to the shit of live -- lol - prepping for board meetings, catering to kids, fantasizing about if i could invest more in myself -- I really DO have a good life, in theory, I just don't have itime to enjoy it.... It just feels like I'm doing everything for everyone else, if that makes sense.

Anonymous wrote:I'm almost 60, tail end of menopause, will be an empty nester come August. It's going to be a big change after the big change. 49 was hard.

Isn’t 60 worse with your parents likely to have passed away and your cohort getting cancers and various illnesses?

You do have more free time so I guess that part is good!

I'm almost 60, tail end of menopause, will be an empty nester come August. It's going to be a big change after the big change. 49 was hard.

I’m 49 and I’m right there out you, OP. But I also think blaming it on peri fuels ageism and sexism in hiring practices. For women who have no choice but to keep working, this is dangerous.

Anonymous wrote:You are at the bottom of the y curve of happiness. You are in a mid-life slump - things will get better after 50.

She is 49, 50 is literally around the corner. You think a year or 2 will make a diff? Besides, the type of problems OP is referring to are not fixed by aging, it's life changes she wants.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are at the bottom of the y curve of happiness. You are in a mid-life slump - things will get better after 50.

+1

56 and empty nest this Fall. We got some glimpses with one kid in Europe this summer and HS grad on senior trip with friends. 4 days alone was magical. We didn’t go to the grocery store once (I have sons). I didn’t cook a single meal and was on nobody’s schedule. I also got my “real job” (still full-time WAH) done so much easier. I finished so much work earlier in the week- I had even more free time,

Oh and after 10 years finally re-doing family room. Couches are even light colored !

Anonymous wrote:You are at the bottom of the y curve of happiness. You are in a mid-life slump - things will get better after 50.

+1

56 and empty nest this Fall. We got some glimpses with one kid in Europe this summer and HS grad on senior trip with friends. 4 days alone was magical. We didn’t go to the grocery store once (I have sons). I didn’t cook a single meal and was on nobody’s schedule. I also got my “real job” (still full-time WAH) done so much easier. I finished so much work earlier in the week- I had even more free time,

46 and want out of everhthing. Kid is 15 and I'm just so tired of work, kid, the news, everything. I want to just go away and open a bookstore.

You are at the bottom of the y curve of happiness. You are in a mid-life slump - things will get better after 50.

I don’t know if it’s peri or just life but I’m 46 with an 18 and 15 year old and feel the same. Very glad I did not have that much later on 3rd kid we debated! He/she would be in about 3rd or 4th grade right now!!

I'm 49 and in peri - and I am just feeling so - over it! like, i have raised my kids (almost), have been in a dreadful /boring industry of high stress, and have now saved and slaved away, and i just feel like i want to quit my job. i'd also love to sell my house and move to smaller house downtown. I am just so over this suburban lifestyle. i feel like some of this has to be peri. but i have hit my financial goals. now i want the next years to be about fulfilment/mission driven endeavors. time with friends. with myself. with family. i am just so over rushing between work and kids and responsibilties and aging parents. anyone else feel like this? like, what's the point of all this ratrace???? is this peri? i am obviously not quitting my job today, but wondering if something to do in the next 1-5 years and line up a new career path that is more chill and mission-oriented.