Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 13:03     Subject: What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?
OP do NOT show up in tux’s unless you want to look ridiculous. That’s for a black tie optional or black tie wedding. No idea why people are conflating formal with black tie. Totally different and any etiquette guide breaks this down…
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 12:47     Subject: What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?
What time of day is the wedding and what is the venue?
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 12:45     Subject: What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?
You can rent tuxes for kids at the same places that rent them for adults! Really easy!
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 12:40     Subject: What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?
Anonymous wrote:I’d ask your sister but I’d do suits. You can get them pretty cheap at Kohls. Or they are often at the kids resale stores or just ask on your neighborhood listserve. Catholic 7 years olds basically all have a grey or navy suit for first communion so some neighbor will have one that is just hanging in their closet worn once.


Yeah I got a great one on FB marketplace or $20.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 12:39     Subject: What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?
Anonymous wrote:Tuxes for all. That's what formal means for men.

? Formal to me does not mean tuxes. "Black tie" means tuxes to me. Formal means suits for men IMO.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 12:38     Subject: What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?
I’d ask your sister but I’d do suits. You can get them pretty cheap at Kohls. Or they are often at the kids resale stores or just ask on your neighborhood listserve. Catholic 7 years olds basically all have a grey or navy suit for first communion so some neighbor will have one that is just hanging in their closet worn once.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 12:29     Subject: What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?
It’s your sister’s wedding! Ask her!!
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 12:24     Subject: What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?
The fact that this is your sisters wedding changes it for me in that I think you should be more dressed up assumng you will be in formal photos. I would have DH do a nice suit and suit for the boys or at least a blue blazer and nice dress pants.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 12:17     Subject: What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?
Tuxes for all. That's what formal means for men.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 12:08     Subject: What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?
Anonymous wrote:Where is the wedding? Formal dress varies. Men aren't wearing ties much anymore. If a tux was required it would say "black tie".


Agreed. Also, if the wedding hosts cared so much about formality or were concerned people might not be formal enough, formal is the LAST dress code you’d pick. You’d see black tie (tux) or black tie optional (which means suit at a minimum required). Formal is very wishy washy in execution.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 12:06     Subject: What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?
Anonymous wrote:You kids should be in a suit and not with tennis shoes.


I disagree - formal is a step down from black tie or black tie optional. Nice clean sneakers (sambas, on’s, etc) are fine with a suit for kids. You’ll see adults in khakis with blue blazers - formal is the least clear dress code and it’s always all over the place.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 10:59     Subject: What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?
You kids should be in a suit and not with tennis shoes.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 10:20     Subject: What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?
Where is the wedding? Formal dress varies. Men aren't wearing ties much anymore. If a tux was required it would say "black tie".
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 10:16     Subject: What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?
*formal
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 10:16     Subject: What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?
Title says it all- I'll figure out something for myself but the dress code for my sister's wedding is "forma" and I'm wondering what to dress my 7 and 10yo boys in....shirt, slacks and tie? Should the men be wearing tuxes?