Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Not remotely believable.

Make up something more credible next time.

It's somewhat believable. But it's always good to remind parents of little kids how frequently and quickly these kinds of things go sour. Most of us with older kids have had parent friendships of convenience that just fizzled out because the kids stopped liking each other. If you get too deeply involved when things go sour, you still have to see them at school functions and probably interact with them to some extent too. You are better off making friends that have nothing to do with your kids (like through work or community groups) and getting your kids together occasionally. If OP is for real, she is already too involved from her description of things.

You live you learn.

Yeah no. The mention of Trump is a dead giveaway. And marijuana. Two hot button topics on DCUM in one post? Yeah right.

Anonymous wrote:
Not remotely believable.

Make up something more credible next time.

It's somewhat believable. But it's always good to remind parents of little kids how frequently and quickly these kinds of things go sour. Most of us with older kids have had parent friendships of convenience that just fizzled out because the kids stopped liking each other. If you get too deeply involved when things go sour, you still have to see them at school functions and probably interact with them to some extent too. You are better off making friends that have nothing to do with your kids (like through work or community groups) and getting your kids together occasionally. If OP is for real, she is already too involved from her description of things.

You live you learn.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t worry about her religious or political views. I think the chances that she would discuss politics or religion with other people’s 8yo children are EXTREMELY unlikely. In the remote possibility that she does, you can counter whatever she says with explanations of your family’s values. Your daughter is getting old enough to start understanding those types of topics, and exposure to them is inevitable.

I don't know if I agree with this. Certainly most people don't talk politics to little kids, but I've had my kids come home from a playdate with full on political propaganda posters that someone else told them to make (slogans that they didn't understand the meanings of, etc).

Not remotely believable.

Make up something more credible next time.

Anonymous wrote:You should do a deep dive on all the parents in this group because where there's one there's usually three. Then you can conveniently have other plans when any of the problematic parents are in charge of watching the kids.

Kids drift apart no matter how hard some people try to force friendships. You're better off not making this group your main thing. A lot of posters here do not like to get too enmeshed with their kids' friends' parents.

All of this.

This is what happens with these elementary-age parent clusters. You think these are your forever friendships. They are just people whose kids happen to be your kids' grade at the same school. Maybe one or two of them becomes a real friend based on things beyond your kids. But most of them are temporary friends of convenience.

I wouldn’t worry about her religious or political views. I think the chances that she would discuss politics or religion with other people’s 8yo children are EXTREMELY unlikely. In the remote possibility that she does, you can counter whatever she says with explanations of your family’s values. Your daughter is getting old enough to start understanding those types of topics, and exposure to them is inevitable.

The marijuana is different as it is a physical danger. Not only do I not want someone whose judgement might be compromised by marijuana to be watching my child, secondhand smoke is a concern with marijuana smoke just like it is for tobacco. Moreover, there have been tragic cases where children mistakenly consume gummies or other edibles.

Since she has indicated pro-marijuana sentiments, I think it would be perfectly reasonable to ask about it, in the same way that some parents might ask about other concerns (guns, screens, pools, diet, etc.) before playdates. If it helps, you can frame it as “I know I worry too much”, “I’m probably overprotective”, etc., because I think every family has things they worry about that other families don’t think are problematic. We need to support other families efforts to protect their children to the best of their abilities, even if how they do so may seem unnecessary to us.

Oh no she likes Donald trump oh my

Sounds completely made-up, OP.

I'm assuming you're the author of several other threads this week that sound completely made-up.

You should do a deep dive on all the parents in this group because where there's one there's usually three. Then you can conveniently have other plans when any of the problematic parents are in charge of watching the kids.

Kids drift apart no matter how hard some people try to force friendships. You're better off not making this group your main thing. A lot of posters here do not like to get too enmeshed with their kids' friends' parents.

Anonymous wrote:Was she for or against marijuana? Normally conservatives are against.

The only thing on the list that would bother me is if she’s pro marijuana. I don’t want that around my kids (the drug or even the idea that the drug is okay).

OP here, the videos were all about the experience of smoking/consuming marijuana. Very pro.

Anonymous wrote:Was she for or against marijuana? Normally conservatives are against.

The only thing on the list that would bother me is if she’s pro marijuana. I don’t want that around my kids (the drug or even the idea that the drug is okay).

If you don’t feel the same way about alcohol you are a massive hypocrite

Just miraculously have a conflict any time she hosts where you would not also be present. But do include her and her kid when you host, because it would be awful not to be inclusive with a kid just because you don’t agree with what the parent Likes on Instagram. And I say that as someone who has always despised Trump.

Was she for or against marijuana? Normally conservatives are against.

The only thing on the list that would bother me is if she’s pro marijuana. I don’t want that around my kids (the drug or even the idea that the drug is okay).

You’re overthinking this. Be polite and attend or decline. Same when you host - invite and be polite. Don’t participate in smaller get togethers with them.

I would like some guidance on this situation. My daughter (8) has a very big friend group, she's not close with every single kid in it but they're all friends nonetheless and sometimes, when they have get-togethers, we (their parents) hang out too. It's really not a big deal, some of us followed each other on Instagram as an etiquette thing, I didn't think anything of it. Until I saw the videos that one of them had been liking (Instagram lets you see likes). Now, her daughter is one of the kids who my own daughter is not close with, but I feel strongly that I don't want my daughter to be under her care, like for play dates sleepovers etc. For context, the videos she liked mainly involved marijuana, Donald Trump (apparently she is pro, I am against), religion, things of that nature. We have a "rotating schedule" approach to hosting get-togethers so probably my child will be at her house sooner or later unless I prevent it. What is the least awkward way I could do this?