Anonymous
Post 05/26/2026 15:09     Subject: Has anyone here successfully fixed a dead bedroom?
Not fixed exactly. After struggling to handle this with sensitivity and patience, I started sleeping with other people. This has made me more attractive apparently
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2026 15:09     Subject: Re:Has anyone here successfully fixed a dead bedroom?
Anonymous wrote:I had put on a lot of weight and once I made a lot of effort to get back in shape he responded. He never complained about my weight but I didn’t like what I saw in the mirror. I had only lost about ten of the forty pounds I did lose but that alone got his attention. Losing the weight and getting very fit has made a big difference in our love life. He’s always been very fit and with both of us in very good shape our sex life is quite athletic!



This is step #1 for male or female.
Getting your body in good form almost always increases male sex drive by raising testosterone. If he is already in shape, odds are you are not and he does not find you physically appealing.

I would not want some fat lard on me, odds are he wouldn’t want to be on one either.

Anonymous
Post 05/26/2026 15:06     Subject: Has anyone here successfully fixed a dead bedroom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I told him I was leaving or getting a lover if he didn't get his act together.


DP, but same story. Her life is amazing, SAHM because she wants to be, lots of friends and hobby time, etc. We had a terrible year with no sex and I finally told her that fun time is over and we'll be moving to a 50/50 split on everything, and if she can't manage that then she gets kicked out of the house. Things are going great now, she just had to make contact with reality.

Get mad as hell and give your partner an ultimatum that you WILL carry out. Don't get suckered into forever counseling.


Funny how the inverse does not work- start doing 50/50 and we will have sec again.

Those walk.


I suggest you stop looking at sex as a bargaining tool. You putting out because he did the dishes is no different than him leaving a $20 on the nightstand, if you get my drift.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2026 15:01     Subject: Has anyone here successfully fixed a dead bedroom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I told him I was leaving or getting a lover if he didn't get his act together.


DP, but same story. Her life is amazing, SAHM because she wants to be, lots of friends and hobby time, etc. We had a terrible year with no sex and I finally told her that fun time is over and we'll be moving to a 50/50 split on everything, and if she can't manage that then she gets kicked out of the house. Things are going great now, she just had to make contact with reality.

Get mad as hell and give your partner an ultimatum that you WILL carry out. Don't get suckered into forever counseling.


Funny how the inverse does not work- start doing 50/50 and we will have sec again.

Those walk.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2026 14:58     Subject: Has anyone here successfully fixed a dead bedroom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I told him I was leaving or getting a lover if he didn't get his act together.


DP, but same story. Her life is amazing, SAHM because she wants to be, lots of friends and hobby time, etc. We had a terrible year with no sex and I finally told her that fun time is over and we'll be moving to a 50/50 split on everything, and if she can't manage that then she gets kicked out of the house. Things are going great now, she just had to make contact with reality.

Get mad as hell and give your partner an ultimatum that you WILL carry out. Don't get suckered into forever counseling.



Ooooh, threats like that would definitely get me interested in sexy time with you!!! Nothing quite like someone getting "mad as hell" and giving ultimatums about physical intimacy to fix a relationship...


Don't know what to tell you. We had done all the other things and we weren't getting unstuck. Things are back to normal now, and I wine, dine, compliment, and otherwise show warmth and affection like normal, and so does she. When you get stuck and try all the normal things then you're left with a desperate, potentially explosive option. Thankfully it worked.


You did nothing wrong. Women on this site (and im one) are clueless about this issue. I'm glad you have your marriage back.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2026 14:54     Subject: Has anyone here successfully fixed a dead bedroom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I told him I was leaving or getting a lover if he didn't get his act together.


DP, but same story. Her life is amazing, SAHM because she wants to be, lots of friends and hobby time, etc. We had a terrible year with no sex and I finally told her that fun time is over and we'll be moving to a 50/50 split on everything, and if she can't manage that then she gets kicked out of the house. Things are going great now, she just had to make contact with reality.

Get mad as hell and give your partner an ultimatum that you WILL carry out. Don't get suckered into forever counseling.



Ooooh, threats like that would definitely get me interested in sexy time with you!!! Nothing quite like someone getting "mad as hell" and giving ultimatums about physical intimacy to fix a relationship...


Don't know what to tell you. We had done all the other things and we weren't getting unstuck. Things are back to normal now, and I wine, dine, compliment, and otherwise show warmth and affection like normal, and so does she. When you get stuck and try all the normal things then you're left with a desperate, potentially explosive option. Thankfully it worked.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2026 14:26     Subject: Has anyone here successfully fixed a dead bedroom?
Anonymous wrote:How did you do it?


Communication, agreement, education and action.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2026 14:25     Subject: Has anyone here successfully fixed a dead bedroom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I told him I was leaving or getting a lover if he didn't get his act together.


DP, but same story. Her life is amazing, SAHM because she wants to be, lots of friends and hobby time, etc. We had a terrible year with no sex and I finally told her that fun time is over and we'll be moving to a 50/50 split on everything, and if she can't manage that then she gets kicked out of the house. Things are going great now, she just had to make contact with reality.

Get mad as hell and give your partner an ultimatum that you WILL carry out. Don't get suckered into forever counseling.



Ooooh, threats like that would definitely get me interested in sexy time with you!!! Nothing quite like someone getting "mad as hell" and giving ultimatums about physical intimacy to fix a relationship...
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2026 14:13     Subject: Re:Has anyone here successfully fixed a dead bedroom?
I had put on a lot of weight and once I made a lot of effort to get back in shape he responded. He never complained about my weight but I didn’t like what I saw in the mirror. I had only lost about ten of the forty pounds I did lose but that alone got his attention. Losing the weight and getting very fit has made a big difference in our love life. He’s always been very fit and with both of us in very good shape our sex life is quite athletic!
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2026 14:11     Subject: Has anyone here successfully fixed a dead bedroom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I told him I was leaving or getting a lover if he didn't get his act together.


DP, but same story. Her life is amazing, SAHM because she wants to be, lots of friends and hobby time, etc. We had a terrible year with no sex and I finally told her that fun time is over and we'll be moving to a 50/50 split on everything, and if she can't manage that then she gets kicked out of the house. Things are going great now, she just had to make contact with reality.

Get mad as hell and give your partner an ultimatum that you WILL carry out. Don't get suckered into forever counseling.


Dayum.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2026 14:08     Subject: Has anyone here successfully fixed a dead bedroom?
Anonymous wrote:I told him I was leaving or getting a lover if he didn't get his act together.


DP, but same story. Her life is amazing, SAHM because she wants to be, lots of friends and hobby time, etc. We had a terrible year with no sex and I finally told her that fun time is over and we'll be moving to a 50/50 split on everything, and if she can't manage that then she gets kicked out of the house. Things are going great now, she just had to make contact with reality.

Get mad as hell and give your partner an ultimatum that you WILL carry out. Don't get suckered into forever counseling.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2026 14:01     Subject: Has anyone here successfully fixed a dead bedroom?
Nope. Eventually I accepted that he's asexual and that was that. There are far worse problems and everything else about him is great.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2026 12:47     Subject: Has anyone here successfully fixed a dead bedroom?
Anonymous wrote:I told him I was leaving or getting a lover if he didn't get his act together.


What does this mean? He just wasn’t paying enough attention to you?
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2026 12:43     Subject: Has anyone here successfully fixed a dead bedroom?
I told him I was leaving or getting a lover if he didn't get his act together.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2026 12:43     Subject: Has anyone here successfully fixed a dead bedroom?
How did you do it?