Anonymous
05/19/2026 17:44
Subject: Did any woman here find love after 40?
My aunt did. I would say more like a good companion than a great love but he was a caring and kind man who was 13 years old older than her and was divorced with grown kids. Youngest 15 stayed with them but left after turning 18. He died after 15 years of marriage. She misses him and had distant but respectful relations with his kids until she moved to another state.
Anonymous
05/19/2026 17:39
Subject: Did any woman here find love after 40?
Anonymous wrote:I am 47 and I have been divorced for 3 years. I am honestly enjoying being myself and my kids when I am with them. My ex wife got into a serious relationship soon after our divorce and she seems very happy. I'll always be happy for people who are happy.
So I think you will be fine OP. Obviously I failed at the marriage thing, but I think there are great men out there who are looking to start a family. Best of luck to you.
And my suggestion would be to find a man younger between 35 and 40 is the sweet spot. Past 40 I think the pool is filled of divorced men such as myself that are not really looking to start over, but hey you never know.
Why is it obvious that you failed at the marriage thing? Did you cheat on your ex wife and get caught?
Anonymous
05/19/2026 17:37
Subject: Did any woman here find love after 40?
Anonymous wrote:My sister. Married at 41, had twins at 43. She used her own frozen eggs but needed a gestational carrier. Kids are healthy kindergartners now.
So, your sister didn't "have" them, she was just the egg donor.
Anonymous
05/19/2026 17:36
Subject: Re:Did any woman here find love after 40?
Anonymous wrote:Yep, husband of 20 years left me for his secretary (and she can have him, with my blessing). While that was all going down, a friend from work was really supportive. He did all the stuff my husband refused to do, like going to ball games and movies and concerts, cooking together, reading books I'd enjoyed. He made his move a year or so after. We've been together now for almost 10 years. No babies, by mutual agreement. The nest is empty and we're having a grand old time.
He sounds like a real loser. You're a perfect match!
Anonymous
05/19/2026 17:12
Subject: Did any woman here find love after 40?
Anonymous wrote:I am 47 and I have been divorced for 3 years. I am honestly enjoying being myself and my kids when I am with them. My ex wife got into a serious relationship soon after our divorce and she seems very happy. I'll always be happy for people who are happy.
So I think you will be fine OP. Obviously I failed at the marriage thing, but I think there are great men out there who are looking to start a family. Best of luck to you.
And my suggestion would be to find a man younger between 35 and 40 is the sweet spot. Past 40 I think the pool is filled of divorced men such as myself that are not really looking to start over, but hey you never know.
Some of us do. I am 45M and very successful and a loving father. I have been asked to marry during the time we were seriously dating but decide not to because of a couple of other issues. I would totally get married again as I believe in it and also see other benefits of it.
Anonymous
05/19/2026 16:54
Subject: Did any woman here find love after 40?
Anonymous wrote:I am 47 and I have been divorced for 3 years. I am honestly enjoying being myself and my kids when I am with them. My ex wife got into a serious relationship soon after our divorce and she seems very happy. I'll always be happy for people who are happy.
So I think you will be fine OP. Obviously I failed at the marriage thing, but I think there are great men out there who are looking to start a family. Best of luck to you.
And my suggestion would be to find a man younger between 35 and 40 is the sweet spot. Past 40 I think the pool is filled of divorced men such as myself that are not really looking to start over, but hey you never know.
You should try dating again because at least you appear to have a positive mindset. I wish my ex husband was this positive. He went as far as telling our kids not to talk to my boyfriend. He looks miserable keeps texting and blaming me for our marriage ending. And we have been divorced for 5 years. I wish I were in your ex's shoes.
Anonymous
05/19/2026 16:44
Subject: Did any woman here find love after 40?
I am 47 and I have been divorced for 3 years. I am honestly enjoying being myself and my kids when I am with them. My ex wife got into a serious relationship soon after our divorce and she seems very happy. I'll always be happy for people who are happy.
So I think you will be fine OP. Obviously I failed at the marriage thing, but I think there are great men out there who are looking to start a family. Best of luck to you.
And my suggestion would be to find a man younger between 35 and 40 is the sweet spot. Past 40 I think the pool is filled of divorced men such as myself that are not really looking to start over, but hey you never know.
So I think you will be fine OP. Obviously I failed at the marriage thing, but I think there are great men out there who are looking to start a family. Best of luck to you.
And my suggestion would be to find a man younger between 35 and 40 is the sweet spot. Past 40 I think the pool is filled of divorced men such as myself that are not really looking to start over, but hey you never know.
Anonymous
05/19/2026 16:31
Subject: Re:Did any woman here find love after 40?
I met DH at age 57. He was 60. We each had kids from prior marriages but they were already out of the house when we met. We met via OLD. We each expanded our geographic reach by a few miles (we both lived in the DMV but on opposite sides) and shortly thereafter we saw one another's profiles and reached out.
Anonymous
05/19/2026 14:31
Subject: Did any woman here find love after 40?
My sister. Married at 41, had twins at 43. She used her own frozen eggs but needed a gestational carrier. Kids are healthy kindergartners now.
Anonymous
05/19/2026 14:15
Subject: Did any woman here find love after 40?
+1, we are in our 50s and will not have children together. It is a great, warm, loving, kind, supportive, honest, zesty, calm, stable relationship.
Anonymous
05/19/2026 13:50
Subject: Re:Did any woman here find love after 40?
TTC after 40 is tough. I know two couples who did this, but one was adoption and the other with a surrogate. Adoption was a harrowing process as twice they had the mother back out once she saw the baby (i.e. on the day of birth).
Anonymous
05/19/2026 13:49
Subject: Re:Did any woman here find love after 40?
Yup, I did. The best relationship I've ever been in by far. We both have children (his are out of the house on their own) and mine is still at home but graduating next year.
Anonymous
05/19/2026 13:48
Subject: Re:Did any woman here find love after 40?
Anonymous wrote:Yep, husband of 20 years left me for his secretary (and she can have him, with my blessing). While that was all going down, a friend from work was really supportive. He did all the stuff my husband refused to do, like going to ball games and movies and concerts, cooking together, reading books I'd enjoyed. He made his move a year or so after. We've been together now for almost 10 years. No babies, by mutual agreement. The nest is empty and we're having a grand old time.
Did you have kids from the first marriage?
Anonymous
05/19/2026 13:45
Subject: Re:Did any woman here find love after 40?
Yep, husband of 20 years left me for his secretary (and she can have him, with my blessing). While that was all going down, a friend from work was really supportive. He did all the stuff my husband refused to do, like going to ball games and movies and concerts, cooking together, reading books I'd enjoyed. He made his move a year or so after. We've been together now for almost 10 years. No babies, by mutual agreement. The nest is empty and we're having a grand old time.
Anonymous
05/19/2026 13:35
Subject: Did any woman here find love after 40?
Tell me your story? Did you pursue TTC afterwards? How did it go?