Anonymous
05/21/2026 15:58
Subject: Re:DD’s boyfriend. WWYD?
Why is it so hard for so many parents on DCUM to just HAVE A CONVERSATION with their teens?? Why don't you simply find a time you can have a confidential conversation, tell her what you've observed about his behavior with his friend, tell her if you were in her shoes it would really bother you, and ask her how she feels about it? What is the big deal or hesitation with doing that? That is not butting in, it's not overstepping, and it's not standing silently by worrying about her. Just ask her how she feels!
Anonymous
05/21/2026 12:55
Subject: DD’s boyfriend. WWYD?
I m surprised she is tolerating this. I would talk to her about it. He might be manipulating her. Friend was in a toxic relationship for years and didn’t realize it was toxic until her mother started pointing things out. It was a wake up call for her to leave.
Anonymous
05/18/2026 23:20
Subject: DD’s boyfriend. WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone is so afraid of their children these days. Why can’t you ask your DD, “ What’s up with the boyfriend’s PDA with the other friend?” And, “How does that make you feel?” There doesn’t need to be an ultimatum (break up with this disrespectful jerk), just a conversation.
This. It's not your job to tell her what she should think/feel. It's your job to be a sounding board and safe space for your daughter to explore her (probably conflicting) thoughts.
If you don’t bring it up, if she thinks you’ve seen it and don’t say anything, that in itself makes signal to her that you think that’s normal. Bring it up to her in an open way. Make sure to talk to her generally at a different time about what was good relationship looks like and how a good partner lifts you up.
Yeah. She's too young to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't make her feel amazing. But you can't force anything. Definitely talk to her. Ask her if she feels like this is the right way to be treated. It's so much better to just be single. It's so important to help instill confidence in young people so ending a relationship doesn't feel like a disaster.
Anonymous
05/18/2026 22:57
Subject: DD’s boyfriend. WWYD?
I would ask why he's all over that girl??? She should know asap that there was certain ways to be respected. If your daughter thinks that's disrespectful then she should tell her boyfriend that. If he doesn't change then she should leave. Which is probably the case. Give her confidence now before she goes to college. It's a practice of being empowered and upholding her standards sheesh you just watch it happen?? You're supposed to be her guide.
Anonymous
05/18/2026 22:53
Subject: Re:DD’s boyfriend. WWYD?
You’re her mom. Definitely talk to her about it.
Anonymous
05/18/2026 09:59
Subject: DD’s boyfriend. WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone is so afraid of their children these days. Why can’t you ask your DD, “ What’s up with the boyfriend’s PDA with the other friend?” And, “How does that make you feel?” There doesn’t need to be an ultimatum (break up with this disrespectful jerk), just a conversation.
This. It's not your job to tell her what she should think/feel. It's your job to be a sounding board and safe space for your daughter to explore her (probably conflicting) thoughts.
Yeah. She's too young to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't make her feel amazing. But you can't force anything. Definitely talk to her. Ask her if she feels like this is the right way to be treated. It's so much better to just be single. It's so important to help instill confidence in young people so ending a relationship doesn't feel like a disaster.
Anonymous
05/18/2026 06:32
Subject: DD’s boyfriend. WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:Everyone is so afraid of their children these days. Why can’t you ask your DD, “ What’s up with the boyfriend’s PDA with the other friend?” And, “How does that make you feel?” There doesn’t need to be an ultimatum (break up with this disrespectful jerk), just a conversation.
This. It's not your job to tell her what she should think/feel. It's your job to be a sounding board and safe space for your daughter to explore her (probably conflicting) thoughts.
Anonymous
05/18/2026 06:25
Subject: DD’s boyfriend. WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wouldn't your DD leave for college in August? That would naturally end this relationshp.
She does leave for college in the fall. But she’s a “friend for life” type of girl and I honestly never see her breaking up with him. I can definitely see him breaking up with her though.
That is highly likely. HS romance rarely survives freshman year in college.
Anonymous
05/18/2026 06:06
Subject: DD’s boyfriend. WWYD?
This is between the two of them. She is an adult. I would stay out of it unless she asks you what you think.
Anonymous
05/18/2026 04:55
Subject: DD’s boyfriend. WWYD?
Everyone is so afraid of their children these days. Why can’t you ask your DD, “ What’s up with the boyfriend’s PDA with the other friend?” And, “How does that make you feel?” There doesn’t need to be an ultimatum (break up with this disrespectful jerk), just a conversation.
Anonymous
05/18/2026 00:10
Subject: DD’s boyfriend. WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:Wouldn't your DD leave for college in August? That would naturally end this relationshp.
She does leave for college in the fall. But she’s a “friend for life” type of girl and I honestly never see her breaking up with him. I can definitely see him breaking up with her though.
Anonymous
05/17/2026 23:22
Subject: DD’s boyfriend. WWYD?
Wouldn't your DD leave for college in August? That would naturally end this relationshp.
Anonymous
05/17/2026 23:15
Subject: DD’s boyfriend. WWYD?
Focus on maintaining your relationship with your daughter. She probably won't listen to criticism although you may be able to nudge her a little with an open-ended question here or there. Overall you need to stand back and don't do anything that would make it difficult or embarrassing for her to come to you when things go sideways.
Anonymous
05/17/2026 22:53
Subject: DD’s boyfriend. WWYD?
Ugh, that's a hard one. I don't envy you, or her!
Anonymous
05/17/2026 22:51
Subject: DD’s boyfriend. WWYD?
DD is 18 and graduating this month. She has been dating her boyfriend for almost a year and things seemed to be going okay.
Recently, I’ve had the chance to observe DD’s boyfriend at public events. There’s a girl (his childhood best friend) who he is all over. Dancing with her, hugging her, siting with his legs across hers while he’s taking to her. Meanwhile he might give my DD a quick hug if she initiates it. I always thought he was afraid of PDA, but this may not be the case. The girl also happens to be a good friend of my daughter.
DD mostly acts like all is normal while this is happening, but I can see she is annoyed.
I’d like to say something to DD. To let her know how disrespectful his behavior is. She wants to go on a week long trip with the two of them and one other friend. I’m very inclined to say absolutely not, and that she shouldn’t get herself mixed up with these two kids.
Should I say something??
Recently, I’ve had the chance to observe DD’s boyfriend at public events. There’s a girl (his childhood best friend) who he is all over. Dancing with her, hugging her, siting with his legs across hers while he’s taking to her. Meanwhile he might give my DD a quick hug if she initiates it. I always thought he was afraid of PDA, but this may not be the case. The girl also happens to be a good friend of my daughter.
DD mostly acts like all is normal while this is happening, but I can see she is annoyed.
I’d like to say something to DD. To let her know how disrespectful his behavior is. She wants to go on a week long trip with the two of them and one other friend. I’m very inclined to say absolutely not, and that she shouldn’t get herself mixed up with these two kids.
Should I say something??