Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 20:01     Subject: Grad party etiquette: wearing white
I wore black to my graduation, hah.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 19:56     Subject: Re:Grad party etiquette: wearing white
I went to three grad parties this time last year, and have no recollection what the young grad woman was wearing. One of the parties I wore a light colored dress with a light pattern and a wrap. From a distance it may have looked white.

I think you're overthinking it.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 11:42     Subject: Grad party etiquette: wearing white
When did this trend even start?
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 11:30     Subject: Grad party etiquette: wearing white
I am also only familiar with white dresses at the graduation ceremony. At my kids school, the gap and gown was white and they didn’t want colors showing thru.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 10:25     Subject: Grad party etiquette: wearing white
Anonymous wrote:A middle aged woman in a white summer dress? No. Just no.


What an odd opinion. No color is exclusively reserved for any age group.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 08:19     Subject: Grad party etiquette: wearing white
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If it's one of the more matronly Lilly Pulitzer or similar, those are expensive and I would get some wear out of it at graduations. You are not going to be mistaken for a graduate who wears strappy short stuff, FFS.

Also, is the white dress at graduation relatively new? I never did it 30-40 years ago. Just a nice dress or outfit. Especially if robes were involved.


We wore white dresses in 1998 at my Fairfax county high school.


I meant 1988 !! Lol I’m that old.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 08:18     Subject: Grad party etiquette: wearing white
Anonymous wrote:If it's one of the more matronly Lilly Pulitzer or similar, those are expensive and I would get some wear out of it at graduations. You are not going to be mistaken for a graduate who wears strappy short stuff, FFS.

Also, is the white dress at graduation relatively new? I never did it 30-40 years ago. Just a nice dress or outfit. Especially if robes were involved.


We wore white dresses in 1998 at my Fairfax county high school.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 07:53     Subject: Grad party etiquette: wearing white
Anonymous wrote:If it's one of the more matronly Lilly Pulitzer or similar, those are expensive and I would get some wear out of it at graduations. You are not going to be mistaken for a graduate who wears strappy short stuff, FFS.

Also, is the white dress at graduation relatively new? I never did it 30-40 years ago. Just a nice dress or outfit. Especially if robes were involved.


At my high school the girl's robes were white and not fully opaque so anything other than white looked bad. But people wore other clothes to parties that were not the same day as graduation.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 07:44     Subject: Grad party etiquette: wearing white
If it's one of the more matronly Lilly Pulitzer or similar, those are expensive and I would get some wear out of it at graduations. You are not going to be mistaken for a graduate who wears strappy short stuff, FFS.

Also, is the white dress at graduation relatively new? I never did it 30-40 years ago. Just a nice dress or outfit. Especially if robes were involved.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 07:40     Subject: Grad party etiquette: wearing white
My experience is that white dresses are worn for the graduation ceremony, but not for graduation parties that aren’t day of graduation.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 07:38     Subject: Grad party etiquette: wearing white
You’ll look like you’re trying to fit in with the young women who are graduating, and trying to make it about you on their special day. You would look pathetic.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 07:21     Subject: Grad party etiquette: wearing white
A middle aged woman in a white summer dress? No. Just no.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 07:19     Subject: Grad party etiquette: wearing white
The only time you’re not supposed to wear white is that a wedding.

Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 07:16     Subject: Grad party etiquette: wearing white
If you're the mom or the aunt, don't wear white. Let your kid shine, not you
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 07:12     Subject: Grad party etiquette: wearing white
We are invited to several high school graduation parties in the next few weeks. I know the graduating girls usually wear white dresses. Is it ok for the guests to also wear white/ off white dresses ? Or is it like a wedding where it’s a faux pas for anyone other than the bride to wear white?